Do you let them wet themselves till they start asking to go to the potty, or do you preempt it and try and take them before they wee?

[Scotb]

Our son will happily wee if you take him to the potty and when he needs a poo he'll tell us. But if you don't take him to the potty he will just wee himself and if you ask him if he needs to go (even if it's like a second before) he'll say no. So basically wondering if I let him wet himself a bit more will he work out that he should start telling us. I have tried a couple of days (consecutively) like this before but didn't seem to make any progress so might just need to do it for longer.

[LWilson182]

Hey! Not a solution but my son is the exact same. He will tell you if he needs a number 2 but with going for a wee he will not go until I tell him too or take him myself, if i ask if he needs a wee his answer is always no, if I just leave him he’ll just wet himself, I was starting to wonder if he can feel the need to go at all or if he’s just not relating the signals of needing to go to actually going. Ive just been keeping my eye on the clock and take him every few hours and it seems to be working but yeah I’m wondering how long it will go on for, surely he cannot rely on me forever.. he is completely unfazed by wetting himself he doesn’t seem to mind so taking himself ourselves is our only option at the moment! Fingers crossed it will come with time 🤞🏽

[Pitty456 in reply to LWilson182]

My little boy is 4yrs old and does exactly the same its driving me insane. He goes to a pre school and they take him alot but he won't do anything on the toilet just holds it in then he ends up weeing himself. I need a solution as its ruining his time at pre school

[HayleyG86]

Hi I'm a nursery nurse working with children aged 2-3 years. It's a case of rewarding him for just sitting on the potty wether he does anything or not. You could also use a little set of bubbles as when he blows out it tends to make them have a wee. Also begin taking him every 30 min then up it to by 5or 10 min so he begins understand his own motions and feelings of needing to go to the toilet / potty.

[digger_is_taken]

When does he usually pee during the night? If you don't know, start tracking it. Set an alarm for a little bit before then, and take him to pee. He'll get the hang of it on his own. This is a teaching technique known as scaffolding. You show someone how to do something by doing it with them until they can do it on their own. As he becomes capable of more and more, scaffold less and less.