Will he grow out of it?

[Superkate2020]

Hey everyone just wanted some advice.

My son is 5 and still wets the bed (doctors say not to worry until he is over 7) so he wears nappies still at night. Every now and then (maybe once every 2 weeks or so) he will do a poo in his night time nappy. I have told him off for doing this, tried to go without night nappies and use other methods, but nothing has worked without a huge amount of extra work and for the sake of him doing it only every now and then, it’s just not worth the washing etc.

I think it’s out of pure laziness, I know that sometimes when he wakes up before me and my husband on weekends to watch TV, he will wee his nappy instead of getting up off the sofa and go to the loo.

Has anyone else ever experienced this? How did you overcome it or did you just make peace with it?

Thanks.

Kate x

[Frustratedmum1]

Hi ya. My neice was seven before she came dry at night. My son suffers with constipation so he is not dry at night. But what we find is he will wee in his nappy in a morning. So we ask him to take it of as soon as he wakes. Me or my husband gets up and make sure he does it. At the end of the day you know your child the best so listen to your gut.

[Superkate2020 in reply to Frustratedmum1]

oh so did your neice and son do the exact same thing then? I'm glad to hear that this is not an isolated thing .. if I don't laugh I will cry so .. haha. I do try and ask him to take it off the second he is awake but if I don't get to him first, like on a weekend for example he will please himself

[Frustratedmum1 in reply to Superkate2020]

My neice grew out of it. Funny enough since my son constipation has improved he has stopped weeing at night. So I'm keeping thins crossed

[Skyfullofstars1]

Hi, I don’t think it’s laziness.. he is used to that feeling of wet in the pull up so it won’t bother him like it would you or I. I say this as my daughter now 13 used to do this. I completely understand your frustration as I also felt that way. I wouldn’t get him in to trouble or make a fuss of the situation. He will almost definitely grow out of it. We used the alarm when my daughter was 8 and that worked for us. When I say worked she did still occasionally wet. Drinking 8 glasses of water a day and no drinks after 6pm was the advise. Milk and black currant juice were not good for bedwetting either. It’s only a nappy and nobody knows. A wee wash down in The morning and it’s felt with. It can be deep sleep or hormone related. Ever child get the hormones at different ages to stop or slow urine production when they sleep. We have no control of when this happens and I wish I knew that before I showed my disappointment when she wet the bed again.

[Superkate2020 in reply to Skyfullofstars1]

Thank you I'm so glad I'm not alone. If I'm honest, I can cope with the extra wee. It's the poo that gets on my nerves I'm sure your daughter never did that after being potty trained.. I mean to be doing that at 5 years old it makes me think i've done something wrong I really hope he will outgrow it soon. When did your duaghter stop doing it?

[Skyfullofstars1 in reply to Superkate2020]

My eldest daughter didn’t poo in the nappy and around age 8 after the alarm she was loads better like maybe once a month so I just used a bed protector and stuck to the no liquids after 6pm and ‘ double wee’ before bed. My youngest on the other hand is 5 and still has pull ups at night. I had to put her back in pull ups all the time for a few months when she was 4 and it broke my heart but she had had so much problems with constipation that it completely damaged her insides and she had no control.. like you I felt I’d done something wrong. Now I’m sure the only thing I done wrong was tell her off for pooing in her pants or nappy as she then tried to hold in her poo and my god that’s a whole different ball game all together. There a poo app, send the poo back to poo land that is good. And there’s lots of books too that I found help reinforce that poo goes in the toilet. He will grow out of it, you just need a ton Of Patience and keep going over the same thing ( trust me Iv ran out of mine plenty of times and been in despair with the poo situation) do you think he could be constipated? Toilet routine is also a massive part of my daughters progress. And rewards ( I have about 476 mashums 🙈) but every poo In the loo = something and maybe a sticker or stone in jar for remembering to take the nappy off first thing would help. Xx

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It's most definitely not laziness. He is exploiting his nappy for comfort, but I have an educated guess that hes just going through primary enuresis. Most kids his age do. I, on the other hand, am incontinent so that's a different story. Anyways, your son would most likely grow out of it and maybe also go through a secondary enuresis. But that's usually it.