Bedwetting

[warofthebed]

I have a teen who suffers badly from bedwetting. We have tried everything under the sun, but she can't seem to get dry at night. She has a weak bladder and she is a deep sleeper=bad mix!

She wears Drynites bed pull ups to bed.. which sometimes work sometimes not (leaking). she feels lonely and isolated with this problem and feels like she is the only teen that has to go to bed with a "nappy on".

So until we get a new solution or she stops. We are left in this situation. Bed matts don't work for her as she would still require a sheet chnage with the duvet often getting wet.

I just think If I showed her she was not alone she would maybe stop feeling as down about it. Has anyone else ever had this as a teen or have you ever known of anyone doing this in their teen years? How did you/ they cope?- How did you/they stay positive?

Thank you

Jackie x

[Laundry]

I had this with my 9 year old. Nothing worked we tried everything. I was so desperate I took a gamble on seeing an osteopath (who was v experienced and trained in this kind of thing). She found a misalignment in his spine in the region where nerves send the signal to the bladder, she said that was probably stopping the signal getting through. After 6 sessions there was no improvement but by 8 he had stopped bedwetting and now we just have the odd top up sessions to stop things slipping back.

I should also say that I told my son that this was to stop him getting back problems when he was older, he had no idea it was for bedwetting (he would be too embarrassed) so there was no placebo effect.

Of course it could be coincidence but if you can afford it I would definitely recommend it

[halftime in reply to Laundry]

Hi Laundry. That is so interesting. Years ago when my son was about 9 or 10 ( he is 15 now) I sought advice from the local chiropractor college clinic and they wouldn't even look at him; said it was not recognised as something within normal treatment range and because they were a college (establishing good practice) they couldn't look at him. I have been a bit nervous of finding someone else to look at him because they got so weird about it and because I am worried about putting my son in the hands of someone who has no experience essentially of kids with PNE. (One of my other son's had been seeing a cranial osteopath prior to moving here; I took him to someone supposedly well qualified for continuation who gave him a headache for a month and even I could see was ham-fisted! ). I feel fearful of making this vs worse, but maybe worth another look. Yours is not the first positive account I have heard. Thanks for sharing.

[Laundry in reply to halftime]

That’s interesting. I don’t know what the difference is between an osteopath and a chiropractor or how much things have moved on. The osteopath we saw was very experience with children and had done up to date training on bedwetting - so osteopaths must do bedwetting training! She also was highly recommended.

[Pandajam13]

Hi there. I can assure you, you're are not alone. I have a teen as well who has had problems since toddler years. No bedwetting but bowel issues. Simply doesnt recognise when he needs to go which results almost daily in several accidents. Accidents occur overnight & in the day as well, it impacts on life greatly. We do see a specialist nurse who has been great in offering support, different advice & meds. It is hard & my teen feels isolated as it's not a subject for discussion so very few people are even aware of the problem. Thankfully now he's getting a little older he's recognised there is a problem & is keen to be seen as 'normal' so trying anything to eradicate it. It is hard & sometimes i feel at the end of my tether, my teen does aa well. I cant really offer any suggestions for you to try only be assured are not alone with a teen who is unique. I'm sure there's a few more of us dotted around.

[OlivesYou in reply to Pandajam13]

I am in the same situation. I have a teen boy with autism with encopresis. It’s been a rough situation between my husband and I. Constantly trying ideas and constantly feeling frustrated when they don’t work.

Thank you for your post.

[Diamond12]

I wet the bed at 15

[halftime]

Hi Warofthebed. My son is 15 with PNE, but still persisting so don't have any proven success route to offer. Have had some extended dry periods ( months) with aid of vitamin supplementation, coming off and then back on to try to decide whether causal improvement or not, but recently not anywhere near so apparently effective and i don't know where to go with that now. We are looking at probiotics due to some interesting posts on this forum. I am going to ask about trying PTNS at next appt shortly. Even cosidering whether his huge tonsils are anything to do with the whole picture. GP says he would be a loud snorer if so , but I am not sure that is entirely correct. Have tried accupunture when he was younger; we may revisit that with someone different and see if more successful now. Without a doubt it if multifactorial, which is what makes it so complex to treat.

Staying positive, for my son, is becoming increasingly difficult. It' s a huge black shadow which has dominated his childhood and is looming over his entry to adult life. Your daughter probably has the same thoughts. Things which keep him up are making sure he takes part in trips away his friends do and that he feels in control. Desmomelt help with that and pads as back up .

I don't know how much help you have had but the most useful advice and ideas have come from forums like this and getting on line searching every idea we come across. Having said that, if you haven't already, start making noise and get the medical professionals paying some attention. I feel sure there is an answer, with the aid of a little joined up thinking ... Somebody on here said the squeaky wheel gets oiled and it is true...

[Diamond12]

I wet the bed every night at 15 too

[annarobish]

Hi, I'm not a parent I'm 15 - but I did start bedwetting again at 12. I didn't want to see the doctor at first but did in the end and it turned out I'd started to grow faster than my bladder. It was really helpful to know why it was all happening and it made me feel better about how we dealt with it. I know I'll grow out of it eventually but for the time being I just wear protection at night and everything is just fine! I did start with pull ups but they leaked a lot so now I basically wear nappies :-s ... I started with the larger pampers ones and now I use Tena Slip Juniour / AbriForm Juniors. It did take a while to get used to if I'm honest, but now I don't go to sleep worrying if I'm going to wake up in a wet bed and I can sleep with out being stressed. I've found there are loads of girls out there like me - it's not super common but it's not unusual either. I hope this is helpful Anna