My five year old daughter refuses to poo on the toilet. This has been going on since she was potty trained at just over 2 years old. We have seen doctor after doctor, a child psychologist and even been referred to hospital over this. We've had Movicol, Lactulose and Senokot in varying combinations. She refuses to eat anything with any semblance of fiber in (eg. dried fruits, brown bread etc) - the only thing she will eat that helps any is grapes but she can't live on them!
It seems to be all in her head, as the only answer we get out of her in regards to this is "It hurts when I go". So, then comes the explanation that the longer she holds it in, the more it will hurt and she's much better off letting them come when she feels the urge and she will be able to poo like everyone else. This advice 99.9% of the time will fall on deaf ears and it's back to poo in her knickers.
This is beginning to pose an even bigger problem of late though; where she will withhold and refuse to poo, it's starting to affect her stomach and on the days where she's been nearly two weeks without a proper bowel movement, she's quite often sick. I am really beginning to panic about the long term damage she is doing to her digestive system and a solution is looking ever further away and bleaker.
Please, send help and clean knickers!