Hi, I'm new to here. Just wanting to connect with other parents in the same position. My husband and I have a four and a half year old girl who wets herself daily. She has never been dry. She has been out of nappies in the day for almost two years now and we haven't got anywhere in terms of her knowing when she needs a wee and taking herself. If we take her to the toilet she wees fine, she has no problems having a wee on the toilet anytime that we take her but she never takes herself. Poppy wees fairly often. If we took her to the toilet once an hour we would probably just about stop most of the accidents but if it got a little over that time; say she was playing with a friend or we were busy and didn't take her then she will wet. She has never initiated going to the toilet (for a wee) herself and is completely reliant on us or preschool staff to take her regularly.
Poppy thankfully does take herself to the toilet for a poo. The only exception is if she has loose stools and doesn't get there in time but normally she takes herself for a poo, no problem.
We have seen a paediatrician who prescribed movicol but Poppy isn't constipated at all and isn't on movicol anymore. If she was constipated when she saw the paediatrician then that was unusual and it didn't cause the wetting because she isn't constipated now (several doctors have examined her tummy and agree) and the wetting is no better.
It isn't water infections as we've taken in more urine samples than I can count!
Poppy had a bladder scan which was normal.
Poppy isn't simply lazy. She doesn't like wetting herself now that she's four and a half. If she has a friend to play and wets herself then she tells us not to tell her friend that she is needing to be changed as she gets embarrassed because she's very aware that other four year olds don't wet.
Poppy drinks the right amount and only drinks water. If she drinks milk it seems to give her loose stools although having milk on her breakfast or in foods doesn't upset her at all. She used to have a drink of milk at preschool and then have loose stools when she got home, so we only let her drink water now.
Poppy will start school this coming September (she will be five in the autumn).
We are due to see the paediatrician again next month. Could anyone advise me on what else they would expect the paediatrician to do? Any other tests?
Also, does anyone have a school age child who wets daily or needs to be taken to the toilet once an hour! How do school deal with this?
We know that taking her to the toilet isn't teaching her to take herself, or recognise the 'feeling' of needing to go, but after two years of trying everything, we know she just doesn't know she needs to wee until the wee has started to come out. We have tried not taking her and leaving it to her and she has many accidents a day (too many to cope with) so taking her to the toilet regularly is the only manageable solution. Today she has had three wet accidents even with us taking her to the toilet. The last one this afternoon was an hour and a quarter after going to the toilet, which seems too long an interval for her.
Poppy's accidents are only a small amount of wee. We think that once the flow has started, she is aware and perhaps stops it. Her preschool teacher mentioned that one time she did say 'I need a wee' as the first bit was coming out (she doesn't usually say she needs a wee at all), but she doesn't seem to know until that point. The usual pattern with accidents is that she has a patch of wee on her trousers, we notice and then take her to 'do the rest of it' on the toilet.
I would love to hear from anyone in the same position. Especially those with children about to start school or already coping with wetting at school.
Until recently we hoped this was just a case of being very late to grasp potty training, but two years after being out of nappies and aged four and a half, with no progress, we know there must be more to it!