ED from anxiety

[NotYours]

I haven’t seen many posts about ED caused by mental factors, so I guess I’ll start with my own story. I won’t go into too many details, but it all began the first time I tried to have sex. I was obviously anxious since it was my first time, and it just didn’t work. Ever since then, I’ve had multiple relationships, but I’ve only realized in the past two months that the issue is mine—I always found something else to blame it on.

Recently, I started using an app called Mojo.so, and it’s been giving me a lot of clarity about ED and how to get better. I’ve also reached out to a therapist and have my first consultation in January.

Still, it’s been affecting my confidence and my relationship. I know I’m not the only one going through this, but sometimes it feels really isolating. If you’ve dealt with ED caused by mental/emotional factors, how did you cope? What helped you physically, emotionally, or within your relationship? I’d really appreciate hearing from anyone who’s been through something similar. 🙏

[MrJMan]

I had a really bad time with my ED... it's started when I was 38, (41 now) I had a break down. I only went to the GP when my dick stopped working, maybe if I knew sooner I was in a dark place I would have avoided the ED all together. At times I would cry myself to sleep as felt so messed up by it, like I was losing my manliness or something... I went on several anti depressants, the first made me put on lots of weight, the second gave me headaches and go become even more limp... the 3rd worked and with the occasional help of Viagra to boost my confidence it all came back, I also accessed sexual counselling as I had become disengaged with my dick, so had to really re connect...

still have issues from time to time now but it's usually alcohol or tiredness related

[NotYours in reply to MrJMan]

Thats thought man, it wasnt that big of an issue for me in my past relations cuz i didnt care very much and i didnt really know the issue was mine. But this relation i have right now is so different and i need to be and do the best i can. i actually started watching porn when i was very young probably 10-11 years old. i think that really made me disconect with the reality of sex and also get to that same feel of my own hand instead of what it should really be. i know neither are bad if done right but for it i believe it aligned my brain to see sex in a completly different way, and feel. I know im kinda just throwing my thoughts out right now so im thank you for taking the time to read and understand this. It really helps to hear that you were able to get so much better when it got so bad. I also tried viagra and it work really well because it give me confidance when i use it. but i dont want to need it. How did you manage that? Did you play with the dosage?

[MrJMan in reply to NotYours]

I didn't mess with the dosage and tried to go several days without needing it.... will PM you

[BarrySimpson]

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