Reminiscing

[Aardvarks]

It’s getting close to my friends due date. I am trying to prepare myself for the bombardment of pictures and messages complaining about lack of sleep and sick in the hair…

I’ve been thinking back to when my eldest niece was born and how it was probably the closest I will ever get to being a parent myself.

I remember sneaking into my sisters bedroom in the early hours and stealing my niece away so my sister could get some sleep. I wish I could go back and relive those days.

[OhEmGee80]

Hey, I never managed to conceive and I just wanted to reassure you that if you do end up in the same situation it does get easier!There's a long period of grief and reflection, then finally acceptance.

I now embrace my life without children and me and my Husband take every opportunity to enjoy ourselves.

Sending big hugs.

[Aardvarks in reply to OhEmGee80]

Thank you, that’s reassuring!

[Cocoacupid]

honey I have come to the acceptance that I have severe deep infiltrated endometriosis at 37 I may never birth my own child. I don’t actually think I could even cope with a child due to possible having autism. In my 20s was very jealous when both my sister and my brother both got married and started to hav family’s of there own I had the green eyed monster for sure I think I was envious as I wanted that for my life or I though that was what I wanted. I think I have accepted now that I’m older it may not happen. As I don’t have a partner having children now doesn’t effect me as much as it did in my 20 s also if I did meet someone I would possible adopt as there are so many children out there that need a loving home through no fault of there own. I have come to realize you don’t have to birth a child to be a great parent or mother. I think that when I was younger it was all hype you have to be a mum or birth a child as that is expectations for a women in general. When that doesn’t happen you start to feel less of a women or person. Also as someone else said if you grieve now for the loss of not being able to birth a child it does get easier over time. I look at my nephews and nieces and I’m glad I am their auntie am glad I can give them back as they are growing up they do my nut in.i think if you are unable now to have children accept it grieve it it will get easier bit by bit. There are other options as I said to be a mum. You could have a surrogate or adopt or foster. Take care xx