Endo destroying my life

[Fraser1]

I have found out today that my husband for the past year has been messaging another woman, he insists that it has been just to talk and nothing more and felt he had nobody to talk to, we do have friends but from his perspective they were all joint friends so he didn't want to talk to them.

He knows I was sensitive about this woman, for no reason (gut instinct) and he covered up/ lied about talking to her.

Our whole lives are intertwined obviously it feels like such a massive issue. I just don't know what to do!!

He is insisting he needed somebody to talk to about everything and the face that endo has changed some things. It was talking from what I've seen although he did suggest meeting in one message. She is an ex colleague of his who he got on well with.

What would you all do, I'm at my wits end.

[thara9643]

I’m going to recommend a therapist or counsellor.

[Moon_maiden]

Sorry you are going through all this, not easy by any stretch.

Sometimes people will hide friends because of this. It will depend on how much you believe deep down. I talk to someone and they reciprocate, but nothing more than that and it wouldn’t get discussed elsewhere. They’ve been a huge support with all this.

Would it be worth meeting her? I don’t if that would be easier to judge any feelings that he might have. Does he acknowledge the condition and understands that it isn’t made up?

[Hidden]

I’m really sorry about this, I would suggest couples therapist too and then take it from there, see why deep down why he couldn’t talk to you about it! I really hope you can both work through this x