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My laproscopy has been cancelled and I am so miserable and need to vent.

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I was supposed to go in for my surgery a week today but the hospital rang me to say they have cancelled it and the next possible date is the 14th of July.

I know that's not far away but I had organised my life around this. I am so angry and I don't know what to feel right now. I work full time and study and it's messed up everything.

Now I'm thinking what if they don't find anything and I have another 16 years of pain and sickness. I'm sorry to rant I just need to get it off my chest.

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Cmmo519

My first op was cancelled too (and rescheduled for 4 months later) and I know just how frustrating it is. I’m sorry you need to go through this on top of the daily struggles you already must deal with!

The best advice I have is just to let yourself go through and let out all the emotions that you’re feeling. Anger, sadness etc. Because it’s all normal.

Fingers crossed for your surgery, I hope it goes well xxx

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Bobz1987 in reply to Cmmo519

Thank you so much for replying. I just feel so angry that I have been given a weeks notice! I know there is no rush but I was psyching myself up for this x x

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Cmmo519 in reply to Bobz1987

That’s absolutely understandable! Sometimes you can’t help but wonder if they understand that it just isn’t that simple to get shifts covered and have people to help care for you afterwards. Yeah there’s no rush but to you every day will seem like a very long time! You’re entitled to be angry and I totally get what you’re saying. I think sometimes the emotional side of all of this is definitely as bad as the pain! xx

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Bobz1987 in reply to Cmmo519

It totally is! Like getting through each day thinking oh it's ok I just have to be bloated and in pain I'm used to it. Bleurgh. Does my head in x

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LolaLo3 in reply to Cmmo519

I’m so sorry to hear this , it’s soo annoying I hear ya! I was cancelled my first lap aswell, I was more annoyed they left me the whole day till 16.30 to tell me they never had any beds I had sat in the ward obv hadn’t eaten or drank anything... I felt soo angry at them.. like you I had made plans all around my surgery , luckily my work were ok and supported me ... it’s good you have your second date mines was 4 weeks later aswel, when I went in for my lap they apologised to me and told me I would be guaranteed to have my op which I did .. I then got a letter from nhs to apologise for cancellation , it is really annoying try and keep yourself busy i treated myself to new pj’s and new dressing gown and some comfy clothing I was more organised 2nd time round!

Unfortunately I was diagnosed stage 4 endo so I have a major op coming up! I have prepared myself if It gets cancelled again.. good luck with your lap ...

ps: take a pillow or whoever is picking you up from hospital tell them to bring a pillow! The journey home is not the best! Xx

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Bobz1987 in reply to LolaLo3

Thank you for replying! I wish you the best of luck for your next operation. I really hope they don't cancel on you this time.

I think I just want this 2nd date confirming now so I can organise work again. I had mentally prepared myself and now I'm a bit all over the place but I will try and keep myself busy for sure. X

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Goldencat

So sorry to hear ☹️ I’d be very peed off (to say the least) too. Mines next week and so I know the hassle it is to get the time signed off work and just the emotional ups and downs you go through prior to surgery. And I know it’s hard when you’re in pain to face another two weeks. Try to take each day as it comes and keep yourself busy then the time should pass by quicker 😊

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Bobz1987 in reply to Goldencat

Good luck for your surgery darling! Yeah I didn't realise how much mental energy it was taking for me to prepare and now I'm like oh....ok I'll just have to carry on for a bit longer then.

It's so annoying when things are out of your control as well. X

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Buttercupstar

It must be sooo frustrating for you although like you say not to long to wait in the scheme of things but i get ot you just want it done with x

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Bobz1987 in reply to Buttercupstar

I think I just hate having to change plans. Especially when I was being so supportedby everyone. I guess I feel a bit embarrassed that Its been cancelled because it's just backed up the thought I have about it all being in my head and can't be that bad. X

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