Should I start trying for a baby?

[Gemx85x]

Hey everyone I'm 29 and have no kids I'm really really starting to get broody and my pain levels are getting worse, I'm struggling to find a reason why I should wait any longer!!! The only problem is my current partner has decided that he doesnt want anymore kids and if I want kids we should end I just dont know what todo

[Petree86]

Hi Gemx85x, really sad to hear that your partner doesn't want more children. That must hurt. I've suffered with painful periods since my first period and I was diagnosed with moderate endometriosis almost 3 years ago. My husband and I have been trying for a baby for about 3 years and I have never been pregnant. Some women with endometriosis are lucky to be able to conceive naturally however a lot of us experience difficulty conceiving. We are now starting the process for IVF which I didn't expect to have to do at 28 but we would like to have a baby.

You may be lucky and fall pregnant naturally once you and your partner decide that you want children or it might not be as easy as that but it will definitely help that you and your partner understand what could potentially be ahead for you as a woman who has endometriosis. I can't advise you to end your relationship but do think about whether you can be with someone long term who doesn't want children when it is something that I can see that you want.

Hope everything works out for you.

[Gemx85x in reply to Petree86]

I don't know what am going to do he's already got a child and is adamnent he doesn't want anymore and would want me to get rid if I did fall pregnant. I Don't want to push him into it coz that's not the type of person I am x

[Sarah250]

Hi, I'm sorry to hear your in a lot of pain and that your partner isn't thinking along the same lines of you. I remember when I was really broody, all you seem to notice is babies and bumps !! If kids is something you've really got your heart set on you need to have a serious talk with your partner and decide where you go from here. Just going to put this out there: yes you do / can get temporary relief from the endo while pregnant but it does come back for most people. I had a baby last year and while the pregnancy was great with no pain at all, since the birth the pain is WORSE than before and I'm waiting for a laparoscopy to try and sort it out. All the doctors I saw kept telling me that having a baby was the cure but they don't tell you it's only whilst pregnant !! Luckily we wanted to start trying anyway and got pregnant in the first month which was a miracle !! Follow your heart but also know that there is no cure for endo you just have better days / months sometimes.

[Gemx85x in reply to Sarah250]

I know there's not but when Drs keep mentioning hystercomys to you having a child first starts to be on your mind. He refuses to have anymore children and I'm not sure I want to be with some1 who's thinks like this. I'm not asking for right away but he's saying no more kids ever!!! I just wish I knew what todo

[cms1305]

Hello. You must feel very pulled in half over this. I'm not going to give you any advice about your partner as I have never been in your situation. But I have regarding bady.

I have endo, have had it for 9 years or more. It took us 3 long years to get my 1st boy. It was naturally we where so luckily. But during the 3 years we had every test going, which is horrid and can be very painful. But it is the emotional side of it all. For me I found it so hard. My husband was great but at times he to found hard.

This is something you have to work out. No one can tell you what the right thing for you is. Believe in your self and what you want. If you ever need to talk that's what we are hear for xxx

[Gemx85x in reply to cms1305]

Thanks hunni, I know its going to be hard and after 14 yrs of pain I just don't think I can give up before trying if you get me as there talking about hystercomy a now my partner already has a child and doesn't understand and is never there for me coz I think he thinks I'm putting it on even being in hospital all of last weekend he's not been there

[cms1305]

After reading what you just wrote. I feel very sad for you. Ask your self this. What do you want? Wanting to have a baby doesn't go away it grows stronger. If you feel pregnant and he said get rid would you be able to do that?

Ask yourself want you want xxxx