Do/did you ever treat yourself .....

[chloe40]

At the end of each week you manage to stay drink free?

Sometimes an incentive helps, bribery I suppose, but it all helps, and if you did, what did you buy?

Sending support <3

[LilyAnnepuppy Ambassador]

You make an interesting observation, Chloe. Rewarding myself for staying sober isn’t something I practice. Maybe I should.

My reward comes in the freedom I get from being a victim to the disease of alcoholism. I work hard to stay sober a day at a time. But the results usually fill me with gratitude. Left to my own devices, I have to drink

Maybe I’m looking at this wrong. Maybe I should pat myself on the back. But I don’t give myself kudos for taking my meds every day. It’s just something I should be doing for my own benefit. I’m the one who reaps the rewards for good actions.

Does that make any sense?

[chloe40 in reply to LilyAnnepuppy]

Absolutely it does LilyAnnepuppy

Just thought sometimes it might be nice to say 'Well I deserve a treat, I've worked hard at this' and we all have <3

[LilyAnnepuppy Ambassador in reply to chloe40]

You’re probably right. ❤️

[Starrlight in reply to LilyAnnepuppy]

I’m the same way. My reward is the freedom I have from being away from the drink which hurts me. I do like the idea of a treat though.

[Comfortnotspeed]

Good question chloe40, I like to think so. I bought some Noseco which was a treat. And had a little Vinted blow out! Nothing major just something nice. The app is adding up a major amount of cash 🤦🏼‍♀️I’m not sure I actually spent all that on booze?….

[LilyAnnepuppy Ambassador in reply to Comfortnotspeed]

I have to check the alcohol content in non-alcoholic drinks. Some of them have some alcohol in them. Also if I’m “pretending” to drink, it could trigger my obsession. Just what I was told when I first stopped drinking. Hate to rain on your parade. But some food for thought. Try it on for size and if it resonates, use it. If not, throw it out.

[chloe40 in reply to Comfortnotspeed]

Really pleased you do treat yourself @Comfortnotspeed,

It helps I think and you c an enjoy something nice. Ha ha I bet you did spend that much!

<3

[Comfortnotspeed in reply to chloe40]

😊 Between OH and me we must have spend loads. Ridiculous. Although I’m craving sweet stuff like mad I’m trying not to replace with too much 0% cider or wine. Like the Noseco at the weekend.

I should have saved up for something really. The app £££ says it could be something from Louis Vuitton never mind Vinted 😂😂😂

[chloe40 in reply to Comfortnotspeed]

Oh dear Comfortnotspeed

It's never too late😉

[kenster1]

first lockdown I never drank for weeks stopped eating crisps chocolate fizzy drinks saved 1500 in all I was going to put the money to decorating but it ended up being mostly spent in vet fees still it kept my four legged friend alive.

[LilyAnnepuppy Ambassador in reply to kenster1]

Pets are priorities.

[kenster1 in reply to LilyAnnepuppy]

indeed they came 1st in my eyes wallpaper paint and new flooring would never give me joy my dog has.

[LilyAnnepuppy Ambassador in reply to kenster1]

Amen to that! Dogs are the best. We haven’t had one since 2018. But we have three birds.

[chloe40 in reply to kenster1]

For sure kenster1 always have to put them first, they give so much to us <3

[chloe40 in reply to kenster1]

Aah bless you  kenster1

As always, you put everyone and everything in front of your own <3

[Hidden in reply to kenster1]

Animals make life more worth living 🥰

My three monsters!

[LilyAnnepuppy Ambassador in reply to Hidden]

Adorable

[HeavyFoot]

I don’t know about a regular treat. A clear head might be reward enough. But occasionally working out how much money you’ve saved (probably a lot) might allow a decent splurge 🤩

[chloe40 in reply to HeavyFoot]

Oh yes, a splurge would be good now and again, a great tonic I find HeavyFoot

[Isinatra]

My reward was that I could look back and know that I was sober. That was the greatest reward and it didn’t cost anything. But sometimes, when I was feeling low and needed to do something nice for myself and knew I couldn’t drink, I’d grab another recovering alcoholic, go to the mall and head for the lingerie department. I’d get a pair of inexpensive unmentionables even though my drawer was full of previous trips to the mall. Ice cream was a definite reward for a long time in my early sobriety, but sometimes it was a reward and sometimes it was a great replacement for the alcohol. Yep, I put on a few pounds at first, but it was better than succumbing to drinking again. I did what I had to do.

[chloe40 in reply to Isinatra]

Love it Isinatra

That's exactly what I mean, those little things mean so much <3

[Isinatra in reply to chloe40]

😁 Yup!