Quick update before people think I've disappeared through not being able handle the group debates 🙂

I feel like I'm on a good path so far. The 3 days on,1 day off is leading to 6 in 7 days dry where I was drinking almost every day. And on that 1 day, so far able to control myself and think about calories. Drunk fizzy pop last few days instead of alco free so I'm pleased about that too...this 4th day thing is what I'm going concentrate on next ... But for now, I'm no longer drinking when kids are in bed and love feeling fresh as a daisy doing my dairy on apps and searching for activities.

Must admit, I don't like the feeling of people in the group looking for me/us/them to fail, but if we don't like things,can chose not to take advice I guess! Just unfortunate that people will shy away from a group that should be/could be potentially helpful.

Thanks for whoever listened on my first opening up, I have now spoken to my therapist who actually made me feel so relieved. I'll work with them moving forward 🙂

[SoberDrunk1]

Great to hear from you. Sorry that you feel that way about the discussions. I usually share from my experience and mostly quote from the book AA because of the experience presented in that book. Even though it was written back in 1939 it as so much of research about problem drinkers, I was able to relate to most of them. If it makes it better, I believe there is a talk about requesting another forum for "Moderate Drinking". Maybe that will alleviate the situation.

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I've appreciated your input thanks 🙏

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Thanks, I have heard this mentioned. 🙂

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Hey ☺️👋 no not left just cracking on with life. Took my son indoor rock climbing and been looking for caravan hols for me and kids with this money I'm saving. We are all I'll at the moment. Hope you are well ☺️

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Thanks 🙏

[Wish3]

yes I agree ! Feel so bad when I fail again ! Like your approach ! Thank you 🙏 nice to feel I’m not alone I’m feeling the 4th day thing too ! Drinking Friday , Saturday & Sunday but in much more moderation!

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🙂 just being more conscious is a massive step in itself. And if we can accept when we have had enough, that is also in itself a massive step. I believe each situation can be looked at and worked on to help with moderation.... Doing the cut throat wouldnt help me to understand myself... That's just me personally. 🙂 I do still aim for the t-total but for now happy with progress.

[fauxartist]

I wouldn't understand why anyone would want someone to fail, and since this should be an open minded forum, it should always be an open door policy for anyone dealing with questions about drinking... and where your at with your questions should always be handled honestly but with kindness....some of us have made the choice of sobriety while others are exploring what works best for them at this point in their lives... no judgement.