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I am on the edge of divorce. My wife asked me to separate around six weeks ago. I've managed to stay and get things on the way that we could rebuild our family. I got two kids, love them all and won't let go till I am sure that I can't do anything to fix it or make it work. We've had a good six weeks; no arguments, house works, kids' time - as a family should be. We've had a drink a few times, and every time it ended on the edge of breaking the relationship. For some reason, when I drink I can't stay cool and enjoy the time, always being too hard on others - not fighting etc. - just an absolute idiot. I believe it's two to blame, but I need to do whatever possible to save my family. We're drinking almost every day, at least wine, then more over the weekend. Promised myself to stop for sake of all of us. Even if we divorce I will have time for kids and, education and work. Hopefully, fix my marriage as well.

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HeavyFoot

I think the answer is in your post. Stop drinking! Sorry to be blunt. It is hard.

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Rattie67

Alcohol is not your friend .. it thinks it is but it’s relationship with you is toxic. You’d ditch someone who sucked the life out of you and made your family unhappy .. so do the same with the drink. You can do this one day at a time. Distract yourself at the time you see yourself reaching for the bottle .. seek some help too. You won’t be judged. You can do this, not just for your family but for you too. 😊

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Music82

I am feeling great!

Drink free :)
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Isinatra in reply to Music82

How are you doing?

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Music82 in reply to Isinatra

Yeah, all good. No drinking :) trying to keep it this way as in case of the divorce it may end in a desaster. 12 days and happy

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Isinatra in reply to Music82

12 days! Great. Sorry for the family issues. It’s a big help to keep alcohol out of the picture. It doesn’t solve problems, it creates them.

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WisePete

Hey Music82, how's it going? Give us an update! :-)

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SoberDrunk1

Ever thought maybe you are alcoholic? The book alcoholics anonymous talks about when you honestly want to quit you cant (because of the obession of the mind) and when you are drinking cant control the amount of alcohol you consume (Due to physical craving after you take one or two drinks)? The only solution is a spiritual one. You can read more about alcoholism in the chapter "More about alcoholism" in the book Alcoholics Anonymous.

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