Trying to move on

[Bb53]

Hi I had 2 partial lobe infarcts last may 2016.im 53 a nurse and a mother to 2 children have a great husband and a good life.but since this has happened I've recovered am independent had to be redeployed to a new nursing job after doing the same job for 27 years as I'm to fatigued and become overwhelmed.started apixiban 2 weeks post stroke they think AF caused it ??? I'm menapausal as well so feel pretty miserable and have chronic health anxiety.i keep getting told acceptance is the key ?im lonely and want the old me back is this normal?always nursed 35 years of a job I've loved.but want to feel better.any posts or suggestions? Thanks 🤗

[moo196]

Hi,

I think you have already heard the thing none of us wants to hear...."you will never be the same again".

This may well be true...but I took it as a challenge to become as best as I could, and perhaps even use the phrase " new improved me".

Have you joined the"headway" section of this website?

[Bb53 in reply to moo196]

No ive haven't joined 'headway 'will look for it.im just a bit 😔 glum and worry a lot.thanks for you reply you seem to be doing great 👍 well done 'I'm lucky strokes haven't left me to disabled,you take care lots of love xxx

[moo196 in reply to Bb53]

I'm doing ok. Have my rubbish times and still.angry that I got this and my partner of 18 years upped and left....

But trying to make the most of it ☺

[MMD16]

Hi Bb53 I read your post and totally understand where you are coming from. I suffered my haemorrhagic stroke in May 2016. I was a nurse in the past and worked for the NHS for most of my life in one capacity or another. I am 58 and thought I was doing ok, no warning and bang! I had my stroke. I suffered health anxiety and long for the old me from time to time. Earlier this year I was very low and not feeling valued and felt that I would never be the same person ever again and mourned my old self. Having a stroke does make you grieve because because you have lost what was part of you. Part of your self is gone forever and that is very hard to come to terms with. You can decide to deal with and accept your grief head on like I did and you can choose to accept you are now a different version of you. We none of us would have opted for this to happen in our lives but now it has we need to seek support and spend time with those we love and who we know are good for us to be around. I am going to stop as I sound like a bit of a counsellor, not wishing to just want you to feel better about life.You deserve to enjoy the rest of your life for however long it is and none of us know how long we are here for. Live it my Bb as best you can, you deserve to. You once nursed so many people to get better now it is your turn to be kind and caring to you!

MMD

[Bb53 in reply to MMD16]

Hi MMD I'm so grateful for your reply.lots of great advice and support.im struggling in my new job and have got to go to occ health next week was terrible on Monday crying and I'm a state,but Tuesday I came out fighting no adaptations at all been given to me In my workplace I'm doing home vists and clinics and rehab exercise classes and I'm worn out I'm doing it but at what cost ???? I will be ill again got to get sorted and if I have to move again it's not the end of the world.my home life has suffered my children want there mother back hard trying to explain to my boy I can't roll round doing wrestling moves and go on our bikes.i have to accept and enjoy what I have a wonderful husband and family and friends.i cryed when I read your reply but it's given me strength and happiness as well I'm going to try to nurse myself into a better frame of mind.lots of love to you.have a great weekend .xx

[MMD16 in reply to Bb53]

You can do this if I can!

Your training will help you, think of how you would help someone in your position and do it for you! Your family will adapt too, just slowly introduce small changes you need to get by each day. Today is your first weekend of making those changes. Be strong and a little selfish putting yourself first!

Work is another matter and to be sorted but you will sort it.

Chat soon enjoy your first weekend of a new approach.

Mary

[Bb53 in reply to MMD16]

Thanks Mary your support and common sense mean a lot.just told my husband and son they are going to have to do a bit more as I'm not spending all my days off doing everything!!so I'm having a cuppa in my conservatory listening to my music happy days 🤗Enjoy your weekend I'm going to try hard small steps at first.xxx

[Wittycjt]

Where are you located. I was 53 when I had first stroke. I am now going to be 56. I am also a nurse but cannot work because my executive functioning skills aren't safe. I can research or advise on things but can't remember to tak a pill without alarms. I am located in NJ, the USA

[Bb53 in reply to Wittycjt]

Hi great reply thank you so much 🤗 It will be great to talk to u through these posts I have MV regurgiton as well .im on apixiban 5mg BD struggling with fatigue and tiredness.i live in north east of England in Newcastle upon Tyne .i was injectioning my self with enoxaparin and felt ok one month post stroke but know 16 months on don't feel that good job to heavy but need to work.take care going to follow u ♥️🤗♥️

[Wittycjt in reply to Bb53]

Please read my bio?