simple question

[RaiLdn]

how to go about finding a wife with a facial disfigurement?

[ACE135]

What do you mean 'go about finding a wife'? Could you elaborate a bit more on your post?If you want to have a relationship, then I guess you would go about it the same way as someone without a disfigurement; go to social events of interest and meet people that way. Nowadays, people do online dating which can be interesting. It all depends on what you're comfortable with.

[Circuitbreaker Community Ambassador]

Hi RaiLdn

I had to read your question twice, unfortunately. The first time I read it, it read awkwardly, but then I read your profile, and now it makes more sense. I am thinking you mean "how to you find your future wife given that you yourself have a visible difference".

Making that assumption, I will tell you what happened with me.

I actually wasn't looking for my future spouse, she accidentally found me, and then we stuck.

As ACE rightly states, you can try all of those things; online dating (if that suits you), being more in public (visiting pubs and events and such like). The more you are out there, the more people you meet and the higher chance of clicking with someone. It does depend on your comfort level. And you may be prepared to go outside your comfort zone if this is something that is important to you.

But don't forget too, your partner may find you! Just carry on being the best version of yourself you can be, and in time, things will fall into place.

You do need to trust it will happen. The more you get frustrated with such things, well, people pick up on that, and you can frighten off people who may have been interested.

Trust me on this, any visible difference you have is just part of you, and not the whole you, and that is what any serious spouse contender is interested in.

Best wishes.

CB

[Solocat Community Ambassador]

Hi RaiLdn! Welcome to our board, or welcome aboard!!

Your question is really simple at first glance, and I see our friends here were spot-on with their answers. Circuitbreaker nailed it when he said, and I quote, "Trust me on this, any visible difference you have is just part of you, and not the whole you and that is what any serious spouse contender is interested in."...because that is what it is! Just a (usually or relatively) small part of us that's taking over sometimes the whole of us...when we let it too!

So, finding a female partner depends a lot on what you are looking for in a partner (It would be a good idea to have one of our female friends here say something about it!) I think one of the most attractive qualities in a man to be attractive is to have a nifty look (yeah! good old perfume-make sure you like it too, keep yourself lean and clean, and do any type of physical activity...very important overall!!), and one other thing is to be courageous, courteous, confident, yeah 3 C's.

I know, sometimes easier said, but one or two of these things to start with can make a world of difference. So, you see, these things apply to any, whether with a visible difference or without, and I hope you find it useful!

Cheers and good luck!