Hi ,just checking in

[Shysteve]

Hi guys,been quite for a bit now ( struggling a bit with a few things ) anyhow I hope all you guys are the best you can be in your current situation,best wishes shysteve

[Hidden]

Hi Steve,

Always good to hear from you!

Sorry that it sounds like you've had tribulations. Hoping they are easing off. It goes without saying, but I know you know this already, you know where we are if you need us.

But great to hear from you.

CB

[Shysteve in reply to Hidden]

Ty for your support,booked to see the doc next Friday,so we'll see what's happening then

[Hidden in reply to Shysteve]

Can identify with that. Doctors appointments fill me with a distinct unease. Been better since I changed my Surgery..... nevertheless. Wishing you all good luck, fella.

[Shysteve in reply to Hidden]

Yeah I'm feeling anxious,but that's nothing new, really good to have someone who understands what/how I feel,which makes me feel a bit better

[Hidden in reply to Shysteve]

at the risk of pressing, which I don't want to do, how you figured out what is making you anxious? Uncertainty with a dgree of lack of trust seems to be the problem in my case. Its taking some rebuilding now to get that back on track ..... which is ....ummmmm, interesting!

[Shysteve in reply to Hidden]

Yeah I feel a definite mistrust towards people,I take it must be a self protection thing stemming from my youth ?

[Hidden in reply to Shysteve]

I hear you. Same boat ..... same boat. The general public I expect to be idiots. And I get what I expect! 😂 (present company clearly excepted!!!)

But Doctors, chefs and Pilots and I need to trust absolutely. ...... that does make it hard.

[Shysteve in reply to Hidden]

Oh I can and have been a prize idiot at times ha ha,I suppose it's the waiting to be attacked self protection?

[Hidden in reply to Shysteve]

who hasn't?!!

Going to ask. You had a run in with someone who's ignorance gave you a hard time?

I hope that's not happened lately, but these do occur ..... never right that they do, but if had a run in like that, yeah, that can make life hard.

or is it more than you are just waiting for the next idiot to say something? I do get that periodically. You start half expecting it .....

Its hard to give up the worry on that. I find it much less of a roller coaster if I just take whats in front on me as is. Then I can spend my energy on things i care about ..... like you lot and some great pink floyd!! 😀

[Shysteve in reply to Hidden]

Tbh it's just a petty thing that's stuck in my non functional brain,it was just after Xmas and we were visiting family etc ,we ended up at my bro in law's house for dinner,all was going swimming untill one of the aunt's (not by blood) decided it was a good time to point out the fact that I "looked strange" and was told no bloody wonder you normally have a bird,and on top of this I've lost a front tooth and was/am unable to get it replaced at the moment,due to a,money being quite tight b, having trouble going to the dentist as this is a trigger for me as well, ty

[Hidden in reply to Shysteve]

oh my life ..... what ?!!

OK. Now what you say makes perfect sense. Thats a double whammy right there ....

I know we can't make this magically go away, I really wish I could, but I do really really hope that at least telling people helps in some small way with your mood.

[Shysteve in reply to Hidden]

I know it's not in the same league as most peot here ,a for the dentist I must say the last time I was at the dentist was about 4 yes ago when a "new" dentist took over the practice,she spent about 20 mins(felt like a year tbh) telling me that I've got the smallest mouth she's ever seen and open wide blah blah , anyway I didn't rethiw much that actually affected me in regards to dentists ( I know there not all the same) but I was so embarrassed I couldn't go bay

[Hidden in reply to Shysteve]

oh no.

The has got to be one of the most inappropriate "professional" reactions ever. If it it were true, what business is the size of your mouth to her? She is supposed to be there to treat you not to offer opinions, and unsolicited ones ....

I can understand a little if the mouth size has a bearing on the availability of otherwise of treatment, but even so, everyone should be treated with a little bit of dignity and respect. for me, that comment fell short. Any opinions should have been confined to the suitability or otherwise of treatment.

I would wager if you had that experience again, you might handle it differently, but (sadly) it may come up again Hopefully it never does, and I really hope that, but IF it does, having some pithy comment up your sleeve can help turn the person saying such things from having an upper hand to being on their defensive.

It is a hard hard skill to master though, I tell you. I don't always get it right.

[Shysteve in reply to Hidden]

Ty for your support,I really don't know why it all gets to me ,you would think after 50 bloody years it would be like water off a ducks back

[Hidden in reply to Shysteve]

This can be summed up very simply.

You're human. You have feelings.........

and even if it been a hundred years, matters little, you should still not have to put up with it, and that really won't ever change.

[Shysteve in reply to Hidden]

Well as for being human ,I think I only just scrape into that category ha ha

[Hidden in reply to Shysteve]

me too! Mostly on mondays!!🤣

[Shysteve in reply to Hidden]

Ha ha,thanks for letting me be d your ear

[Shysteve in reply to Hidden]

Hi cb,thank you so much , you don't realise how much your kind words mean to me,also I'd like to put myself forward as a ear if you even need , again Ty,best wishes,(I've just clinked the screen with my beer) cheers

[Hidden in reply to Shysteve]

LOL and a beer clink in return! 🍺🍺🍺

[Solocat Community Ambassador]

Hi Shysteve!

Long time don't hear! Could you tell us a bit more about it? It's always good to hear from you!

Your friend, Solocat.

[Shysteve in reply to Solocat]

Sorry that came across as quite blunt ,it wasn't ment as such ,just wondering what you would like me to tell you about, still getting used to having people who don't judge

[Shysteve]

Hi what you want to know?

[Solocat Community Ambassador in reply to Shysteve]

Hi Shysteve, it's fine! You mentioned you're struggling with a few things, could you share more about it? It's nice hearing from you again!

[Shysteve in reply to Solocat]

Hi ty for your response,as you can see I think it's just a bit of a silly wobble on my part

[Solocat Community Ambassador in reply to Shysteve]

Good, man! Well, we need it from time to time. How's it going for you?

[Shysteve in reply to Solocat]

Hi , sorry for the delay in replying,(life gets in the way ha ha)had a weekend of doing not much apart from hanging a few bits of wallpaper for her who must be obeyed and a few word search puzzles,so I've been lazy this weekend, caught up on some much needed sleep,so things are quite chilled at the moment but I'm not holding my breath to see how long it lasts,but with the good people like you asking (many people close don't ask)every day seems a bit easier knowing the support is there,thanks best wishes Steve,ps I hope your well

[Solocat Community Ambassador in reply to Shysteve]

Hi there, Shysteve!

Thanks for replying too. Well, weekends are supposed to be for lazing around and doing fun stuff. Many people suffer the Sunday anxiety, using their precious Sunday afternoon worrying about the impending Monday, and that's ridiculous at the least. Myself, for me Sundays is but another working day, but I've felt that type of anxiety countless times before. My off days are Saturdays, so that effect faded away a long time ago, haha. BTW, I just downloaded The Diving Bell and the Butterfly to my Kindle. I'm diving into this fascinating book. If you have a chance to get it, by all means, do, Shysteve, it's an eye-opener.

Tell me how your week is going.

Cheers, my man!

[Shysteve]

Ty for your response,Id like to wish you the best of luck for your future/appointment