Botched Rhinoplasty

[Somanyregrets]

I'm here to ask for help. (Live in 🇺🇸) I am a Male who had a Botched Septo rhino/surgery and a revision to fix it (failed) 10 years ago. Th people who accept me are my children, family and some friends! In the end that's usually what where reduced to anyway. Correct?The only way I know how to cope with it is with meds/narcotics and that's also taken its toll trust you me!!! 10 years of living GONE. Now I know what depression is really like, so sad. I've gone thru enough enough pain, feels like a bottomless pit of despair, there is no more light in my eyes left and the shame I feel is overwhelming for me to deal with so I drown it out with pills.

So embarrassed I cant even tell my Dr, who can most likely help, and probably NOSE, LOL

I'm here to listen to your story and struggles and work on myself for a healthier solution

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Hi Somanyregrets,

We hear you. Loud and Clear.

Thank you for your post. It's great to hear from you!

So, lets analyse. You have support from children, family and some friends. Your words, not mine! You're off to a great start!

To be honest, I never trust anyone who says they have hundreds of friends. Bull. Well, they may do, friends who are either untrustworthy, or who they don't see very often, or they are the FaceBook kind.

I have Mrs CB, my family (mum, dad and superb brother), Mrs Cb's family (great in-laws), and just two people I consider friends. They set the bar SO HIGH I cannot imagine ever needing other friends. I have good colleagues and people I know via the gym so I'm never lonely. We travel together at times, they make life so worthwhile.

Trust the quality of your friends, not the number. Friends will never walk away, never let you do down and will always be there for you when you are at your worst. I'd take just two of those over hundreds of Facebook groupies any day!

Now lets hit the elephant that wandered into your room. I think you need to talk to your GP, or at least, a GP.

I am going to declare now that I found that hard, as the GP I had I found I lost trust in, and without trust, talking doesn't flow as it should. Mrs CB changed GP and then I followed her. And oh my goodness, are we glad we did?. We now have a very trusted GP I can talk to. Hurrah!

Yes, I did have to take a punt to make that happen, but it worked out ok as it happens.

Before you do that, do you think you know why you feel unable to talk to your GP? You don't don't have to say. Its a question for you. I'm just wondering if you yourself know the reason.

It could be trust issues (like we had) or fear of ridicule (any GP ridiculing you should be struck off, so they won't!), or something else.

If you know the reason, then you can confront that. I had a similar issue with flying once. after reflection, it wasn't heights I was afraid off (though i do have a heights fear), it was not understanding the control that goes into flying. I took flying lessons in a glider, and that addressed my underlying fear. Now flying is a pleasure, and not a fear. My point is, understanding your source of fear can help you beat it.

If you need to talk, and in the UK, then there are services I can signpost you to if needed, but I like the sentence YOU said. You said....

I'm here to listen to your story and struggles and work on myself for a healthier solution

You want to work on yourself for a healthier solution. Well, good for you! Big respect. You've started just by making this post.

Your journey's first step, you've just taken. What would YOU like to do and make YOUR second step?

Keep in touch as you need, we'll all be glad to hear from you.

[CarolinChangingFaces Partner]

Hi Somanyregrets

Welcome to the Changing Faces community. Thank you for your post and for sharing with us about what’s been happening for you. It sounds like things have been feeling really tough for you and I can see you mentioned experiencing depression and using pills to cope with some really challenging emotions.

Its great you feel accepted by family and some friends and that you were able to be so open and honest and ask for help from our community. That sounds like a really positive first step.

I hope others on here may be able to share their experience of things they found helpful in speaking with health care professionals as it sounds like speaking with your Doctor or another trusted person would be a great goal to work towards.

Health Unlocked also has some information about international organisations which offer information about support options, I have included a link to one of the US based websites they list below in case its helpful. startyourrecovery.org/

I hope you find this a supportive space and a helpful step towards the goal that you mentioned of working towards a healthier solution.

Take Care

Caroline - Changing Faces