Depression after distortion

[Botched]

I had a severely botched eyelid surgery last year that has left me with asymmetrical eyes severe drooping scars around my eyes and down my face and bulging veins . I have become a recluse I cannot accept it and don’t recomgnise myself . I used to be a sociable confident bubbly person I now find it difficult to even go to a grocery store and lost all my friends I feel very lonely I am 48

[AlwaysSmiling Community Ambassador]

Hello, I'm sorry to hear about this. It can be difficult to adjust to a new appearance so you have every right to feel the way you do.

Just remember that you are still you! Although your appearance has changed, you haven't. I'm sure you will one day be that bubbly person you once were. That person is still in there somewhere!

Hopefully by joining this community you will start to feel less lonely. We are all here to support you. Sending love❤

[Botched in reply to AlwaysSmiling]

Thankyou for your kind Words its been a year and 4 months now and i still cant accept it . I have seen councellors and i am on meds . I havent Found a counsellor that deals with this kind of trauma so i am Not finding What They say helpful .

[AlwaysSmiling Community Ambassador in reply to Botched]

Sorry about that. I've felt the same before. I was having sessions with someone once who just wanted to talk about themselves and I didn't find it very helpful at all. Then I was able to have sessions with a psychologist who was recommended by my surgeon. She specialised in dealing with people who look different. She was much more helpful.

Hopefully you are able to find someone soon but if not, keep reaching out for support here. This forum has been very helpful for me so I hope it can help you too!😊

[SamChangingFaces Partner]

Hello and welcome to the Changing Faces community. I'm very sorry to hear you've had such a tough time. It sounds like you've been struggling with some difficult feelings and your confidence has plummeted since gaining your surgery scars.

It is great you have reached out and I hope you find support and help through connecting with other people here.

Take care of yourself.

[pianopoet]

I feel I can relate to you as my appearance was drastically altered by plastic surgery. I will tell you that even though I am still in the beginning of my journey (5 months) I have learned a few things. 1) I know I will never like what happened to me or accept it fully and that’s ok 2) my beauty might be gone but I’m still beautiful (weird but true) 3) I must do things that bring me joy (nature, write, piano, exercise) to feed my soul 4) I must GIVE love. Give, give, give love even though it’s tempting to wallow in my self misery I must resist by giving my concern, care and love to my kids, husband, parents and friends and nit give in to the temptation to isolate and focus on my loss. I hear your sadness and loss and I really understand it, I’ve felt it. I know it’s been a long time since you wrote and I hope you are ok. There is still beauty and love in the world to experience for you. You are still beautiful, worthy and have value and can have great meaning in your life. While there is life there is hope.