This is a well-known Zen story.
Two monks walking across country to their monastery reached a river where they met a young woman. She was wary of the current, and asked if they could carry her across. One of them hesitated, but the other quickly picked her up onto his shoulders, carriedher across, and set her down. She thanked him and departed.
As the monks continued on their way, the other one was brooding andpreoccupied. Eventually he said, "Brother, our training teaches us to avoid any contact with women, but you picked that one up on your shoulders and carried her!"
"Brother," the second monk replied, "I set her down on the other side, whileyou are still carrying her."
It's true. We do end up carrying around lots of things in our heads that would make life lighter if we just put them down. Old resentments from the past, and worrying about things that might not even come to pass, or that will have outcomes we have no control over.
When you are stressed with care-giving, as well as having to deal with your own busy life, it's really good to stop for a moment and think about the things you can let go, even if that's just for now. Only pick them up again if you find you really need to.
Have a great week everyone.