worried about my mum

[beverley71]

hi im worried about my mum she is 72 years old and she has memory loss the doctor has told her she has dementia she keeps saying my draughter has been in her house and taken thing because my mum thinks she has a key but she has not

[sassy59]

Hi Beverley, sadly your mum will get worse over time but there are things you can do to help her.

Set up a memory board of things that would mean something to her, encourage her to eat well, drink lots, and generally look after herself. In time she may need carers to come in daily.

My mother in law thought that Pete, her son, had taken money and our daughter had stolen her glasses. It’s part of the disease.

You can go on the Alzheimer’s website, it’s very informative. Xxxxx

[MAS_Nurse]

Hi Beverley71 and welcome to this caring forum. As Sassy59 mentioned, the Alzheimer's Society alzheimers.org.uk/info will provide information. Also, Dementia UK dementiauk.org will also provide information and support. Dementia UK provides Admiral Nurses for families affected by dementia. The pinned posts on the screen may also be of help to you. Please stay on the forum where you will receive help and support from other members. Thank you and best wishes.

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Hi beverley71,

I'm so sorry you're having such a worrying time over your mum's diagnosis and her dementia symptoms. It's an awful lot to get to grips with, when someone suddenly starts to have memory loss and acting a little bit oddly, and I think it's quite hard to accept the diagnosis.

But for your mum's sake, it's important that you do, so that you can help her best from here on.

As others have said here, DementiaUK is extremely helpful and informative, and you should also try to get some kind of relationship going with your mum's GP, so that you have trust in the treatment she's given and the advice you are both given.

Dementia is tough, for the sufferer and for the carers, but knowing your enemy (the dementia), is the biggest weapon in fighting the war.

Blessings to you both.

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i know how upsetting this can be for you - my mother had it - we managed to keep her at home til last few weeks - surrounded by family things which gives them comfort - a box full of momento s scarves bits of material anything that reminds her of times when she felt safe -soft baby doll etc - we employed carer’s plus help from social services re helpers - have to ignore what she says - know it’s upsetting - but this is not your Mum - she is confused and frightened -

[Csibikem]

There is a sentence jumped out for me. "You have to ignore what she says"

I live here in the UK. Emigrated 40 years ago from Budapest, Hungary.

My Mother used to come and stay with us during the winter months until she said she cannot cope with the traveling any more.

Now she is in a good home in Budapest. I phone her often. It is hard to talk to her as she has no conversation. My Mother who used to be a charter box!

We also spend months in beautiful Budapest and see her.

It is still hard to do all this from a distance.

Wish you all well.