Why do i need alcohol to make me happy?

Why

[Laura009]

You don't, you just think you do. Yes initially it gives you a lift then the more you drink you spiral into a pool of depression and anxiety without even realising that's what's caused it.

Your initial post which you took down was full of trauma and you have been turning to alcohol as medication to get through the hard times you have been through. It's these traumas which need addressing through professional councelling before you can rid yourself of the alcohol. I really urge you to see your doctor and get immediate help for your problems which are torturing you. Sweetheart, you are so young and should be enjoying your life not being dragged down by your past and your existance being wasted on alcohol. God knows long term it will have a severe detrimental effect on your health too. So please please, get help now.

Look after yourself

Laura

[Hidden]

Hello Mallory-76,

I am glad you are reaching out to share your frustration.

I am sharing Trust5 previous response for you -

I know it is not easy talking to GP's about difficulties with alcohol but it really is something you should consider. They will be aware of local support that you could access. You might also consider looking at the Drinkaware website -

drinkaware.co.uk/

They are a great help and have a number of different ways to do this including Drinkchat

Free online chat service for anyone who is looking for information or advice about their own, or someone else’s, drinking. Trained advisors are on hand to give you confidential advice.

Chat with an advisor Drinkline

-Free, confidential helpline for anyone who is concerned about their drinking, or someone else's.

Helpline: 0300 123 1110 (weekdays 9am–8pm, weekends 11am–4pm)

Good luck, you have taken a massive step by acknowledging your problem. There is help out there for you and support here.

Take care,

Trust9

[Hidden]

Ditto what Laura said, alcohol is a false sense of wellbeing until it takes a hold of you and then things spiral out of control. I always thought I would never be able to socialise, be the life and soul of the party without alcohol, but it actually turns out people close to me and the ones that matter, think im such a better person without it.

The exact words 'to be fair Ash your a twat when you drink, your so much better without it' I get told that many times and I keep reminding myself that when I go out etc.

Your obviously finding it a struggle at present and like Laura said please get help before it becomes a real issue as I can honestly say, you don't want to go down that route, its horrible for you and loved ones around you.

Wish you nothing but the best with this, shame your in the USA as would of said let's me up for a coffee, socially distancing of course lol 😉. Take care.

Ashley

[Laura009 in reply to Hidden]

You never miss a trick Ash .. healthunlocked liver date site.... has a certain ring doesn't? 🤔

[Hidden in reply to Laura009]

Your happily married 😉🤣 so I have to exercise somewhere, pushing my luck is not easy lol, no harm in that it's been medically advised 🤣👍. Hope your well by the way?

[Laura009 in reply to Hidden]

🤣l am & I'm probably old enough to be your Mother but it does my ego the world of good 🤣

Thanks Ash we are keeping well. Hope you are too

[Hidden in reply to Laura009]

Well you can be gorgeous at 30, beautiful at 40 and irresistible for the rest of your life 😉🤣 i read that on a matchbox somewhere lol.

Yes im doing really well thanks, another stone has been lost so chuffed to bits with that. Just waiting for this all to calm down a bit before I head back to the gym.

Its now 9 months to the day of my Sobriety. Was In hospital on 7th November 2019, not looked back since so im a happy chappy, been really really tough but I feel so much better and long may that continue...just keep swimming 🐠🐠🤣ooo fish that's an idea, fish and chip friday, well i am celebrating lol.

Take care Laura

Ashley

[Laura009 in reply to Hidden]

..... and wrinkly and keeping the grey hairs at bay thanks to bottles of clairol at 58 !

Ash you have been amazing and hope Mallory finds the help she needs and gains inspirationfrom all you have achieved in the last year.

Go ahead celebrate... you deserve it

L xx

[Lam1e in reply to Laura009]

Age is just a number 🧐 clairol 58 is a great colour 🤣🤣🤣

[Laura009 in reply to Lam1e]

🤣🤣🤣🤣 so true but l use 5

[Hidden]

Hi again,

If you are in USA as indicated by the previous post have a look at this website:

niaaa.nih.gov/publications/...

regards

[TT-2018]

You need to look at this the other way around. What is it about your life that makes you feel compelled to have a drink? A good counsellor is the best qualified person to address the issue.

Best of luck.

[utep99]

people look for happiness in many different ways. Alcohol is only temporary. If you wish to find true happiness. I recommend this. Acknowledge all mistakes or sins you have committed and tell God you are sorry. Then accept Jesus as the person who died for all your sins. Past, Present and future. The great thing is God accepts you as you are. You do not have to be perfect. Talk to him with all your feelings anger, hate, what you are facing or what you want to accomplish. You will find talking to a great listener makes people very happy. God will begin to bless you and you will find in a world of pain and doubt God is a welcome friend. He listens and things will begin to change. Thank God for those changes. I have found God is the best friend I have because he accepts me as I am and blesses me with many things. It took me 59 years to understand that I did not have to be perfect before I came to God. I only had to be myself. I have not touched a drink in 40 years.

[Dogbot]

Hi Mallory-76

Dogbot hear I’m just going to throw a bucket of ice water over Ash and Laura 💦😂🤣then agree with everything they have said 👍.

I would like to put a question to you more for you to think about than to answer with all the problems you have do they get any better when you sober up after drinking?? Mine never got any better 🤔.

I wish you all the luck in the world.

Stay Safe All

Dogbot 🐶🌈

[Laura009 in reply to Dogbot]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[Cb1963]

If you are masking part of your life by having to use alcohol to make yourself happy, this isn't a cure to solve any underlying problems, from what I can gather from a previous post,(Laura)I had many issues, and drink didn't solve my trauma, and I regret every day I poured alcohol down into my body, please don't damage your young body, the damage it can cause is just not worth it,seek counselling if there is PTSD issues, you are way to young to fight battles on your own, seek advice, you have done the right thing by looking on here, and drinking alcohol doesn't make you become any more grown up,or become an adult overnight,I can vouch for many lost years of drinking, and NOT seeking help myself that made my life totally miserable,I eventually sought help, and i had intense counselling, and I'm over 8 years sober,life can be enjoyed without alcohol, and your body will thank you for it in later life, I hope you can resolve your difficulties out regardless, best of luck for the future.