I don't want to make my Cancer a secret. I'm not ashamed of it. But I find if I admit it (because maybe I'm tired, and I don't have the stamina I used to) people immediately and universally offer unsolicited advice, i.e. "Why don't you just. . . go to Mexico and get unapproved treatments? or cure it with juice diets? or take cannibis? or cure it with Vitamin C? or unload the things you feel bitter about? or pray on it? or see my sister's doctor, he's really great? Why don't you get a 2nd opinion? Why are you having chemo/radiation/surgery? Why don't you change your diet? " etc. etc. etc. I had a certain young person tell me that she is a "healer"
I DON'T WANT ANY OF THIS ADVICE. How do I nicely, completely and absolutely shut it down? I'm really tired of people doing this to me, as I don't want anyone to advise me who hasn't seen my charts, mammograms, scans, blood tests etc., I don't care if they do think they are "healers." I get that this is coming from their own vague discomfort with my illness - but it has made me almost completely solitary of late. I have a partner, 2 family members and 2 friends I can talk to. I pretty much avoid everything else that isn't mandatory (like my work).