Hubby feels rubbish 6 weeks after hea... - British Heart Fou...

British Heart Foundation

50,116 members31,636 posts

Hubby feels rubbish 6 weeks after heart bypass

Positivepants2022 profile image

Hi everyone

My hubby had a double bypass 6 weeks ago.

He did very well initially, but it's 6 weeks now and he feels he's gone backwards.

Still in pain with his chest, but now feeling more weak in his arms.

Getting in and out of his chair is painful.

He feels very unfit - top of the stairs and he's breathless.

He has been walking daily - on the flat he's okay but inclines do him in.

Is he being too impatient? Lots of posts say things are relatively back to normal in 6 weeks.

Experiences much appreciated.

Written by
Positivepants2022 profile image
Positivepants2022
To view profiles and participate in discussions please or .
Read more about...
22 Replies
gilreid1 profile image
gilreid1

in my own experience six weeks is the start of building up your fitness. It was for me anyway. Is he being offered rehab? If so this will help as it did me. They showed me how to slowly build up my fitness. A little bit at a time is good.

Positivepants2022 profile image
Positivepants2022 in reply to gilreid1

Thank you so much, he is going to rehab soon.

APC65 profile image
APC65

At six weeks I was still very ' wobbly' - I'm now 18 months on and feel much more like my old self before I was unwell. It's a long journey, baby steps, rehab and celebrate every day the small steps of progress that often go missed. I kept a journal and looking back at week six I was still breathless going up stairs and quite weak... But no angina chest pain. My left arm/ shoulder was painful for many weeks due to the position they put you in during the op.

This is so helpful APC65 - what a great idea to keep a journal and thank you for taking the time to look back at it for us. I'll let him know. Thank you.

Handel profile image
Handel

My hubby had a quad bypass and the consultant was brilliant. He went into great detail about the placement of arms during the operation so it wasn't surprising that 2 months after the op, he could hardly move his arms and shoulders! Took a while but that sorted itself out.

I kept a diary just so he could see how he was improving day by day. I think 6 weeks is a bit too soon to feel really well after such a big operation. Everyone is different though. My hubby had the incentive of flying to Ireland days after Christmas in 2018 with our sons (horse racing!). That would have been 7 weeks after his op!! Lots of very slow walking on the flat!

I guess your man might be a bit impatient but with the better weather coming, he'll feel like getting out and about a bit more. As far as inclines go, we picked a few hills, walked up them a bit and down again. Each day, he did a few more steps.

Good luck. Lots of love and hugs. Jan xxx

Bless you Jan Handel . That's very encouraging in many ways. It's just so helpful to hear of others' experiences, as you're always worried things might be going wrong. Patience is key and, I think, once he has he follow up x-ray next week, which shows everything to ve as it should be, he will be reassured. Thank you for your time in replying.

Handel profile image
Handel in reply to Positivepants2022

Men are the worst at being patients aren't they 😂! Just make sure you look after yourself. Partners seem to get left out!

Love and hugs. Jan xxx

DWizza profile image
DWizza

Hi , how old is your hubby and how fit was he prior to the procedure? I had Nstemi and quadruple bypass 8 months ago aged 61 Rehab was initially great , pretty upward linear but then my meds started to make me like a zombie 🤦🏼 . First 3 months I focused on walking and got up to a regular 5k walk. I also focused on nutrition, I really believe that helped my healing. The 6 week level 3 rehab course was way too easy for me but it gave me loads of confidence and a bench mark of where I was. 6 weeks is so early post such a traumatic procedure, being reversed spatchcocked 🤦🏼. My left shoulder has been terrible, my physio identified that I had an internal rotation issue and I have been working on various painful drills/stretches since January and it’s taken months to get mobility back , it’s still very painful if I catch it wrong . However I’m back at twice weekly challenging yoga , work physically round my farm carting heavy feed bags, huge wheelbarrows of muck , hay bales , water buckets etc , ride my motorbike , run 5k … or don’t say it to impress you only to impress upon you that we do make progress by chipping away and being consistent. Stick to the protocols , keep asking advice , use this forum and the BHF nurses chat line and keep on top of your GP/rehab physios /pharmacist as some symptoms can be put down to the medication. Our journeys will all be different but sharing experiences can help. Give your hubby my best wishes , keep on keeping on.

Celebrate ing 8 months post surgery 🙌🏻

8 months post surgery
Positivepants2022 profile image
Positivepants2022 in reply to DWizza

Amazing pictures DWizza . Great to see your recovery and thank you for sharing your wise words - very helpful and encouraging. Keep up the great work! :)

GrannyE profile image
GrannyE

I think it takes a lot longer than 6 weeks. I am sure if you look back to where he was last week he will be better. I find you cannot see the improvements day by day but week by week. Even getting fully over anaesthetic takes time.

Positivepants2022 profile image
Positivepants2022 in reply to GrannyE

Thank you GrannyE - I think perhaps he is being a little hard on himself, but when you feel like you're going backwards, it's tough to cope with mentally. He doesn't think he is moving forwards, but I do. :)

GrannyE profile image
GrannyE in reply to Positivepants2022

Just try and keep him positive. Difficult when you are struggling and in pain. Just ask him to look back at where he was one or two weeks ago

maggie80 profile image
maggie80

Hi, I had a quadruple and a heart valve replacement. It doesn't take 6 weeks to feel like your self. Take it easy. Don't over do it. You'll get there in the end.

Positivepants2022 profile image
Positivepants2022 in reply to maggie80

Thank you maggie80 for kind and encouraging words :) Best wishes to you too.

maggie80 profile image
maggie80 in reply to maggie80

Hi, thank you for your best wishes. A retired specialist lives just up the road from where I live. He said to me it's not a week at a time it's a month at a time. I attended cardiac re hab. Ten weeks after my op. Once a week for 6 weeks. It's worth it. It gave me confidence.

fishonabike profile image
fishonabike

at the risk of appearing brutal maybe we could look at this realistically....

your husband had his chest ripped open, they cut through bone, muscles were cut and damaged along with lots of other bits

his heart was cut open and bits (possibly from other parts of his body) were bunged in

then he was stitched up again

good lord, a broken leg is painful for weeks, even with a plaster cast - and that's nothing compared to what your husband went through

the muscles around the ribs, which are trying to heal, are disturbed every time he breathes in and out - i recently cracked a rib which caused 4 weeks of pain, you husband had several ribs sawn through!

and his heart has to keep working to supply the fuel and oxygen his boy needs all the time, while it tries to repair and recover!

i'm amazed anyone can move at all for weeks, especially without being knocked out on painkillers

it takes patience and careful but persistant gentle mobilisation for people to recover fuly from this sort of assault on the body - you and he will get there, slowly and surely🌺

Positivepants2022 profile image
Positivepants2022 in reply to fishonabike

I think brutal is actually wise fishonabike . He's been comparing himself to other people (I think in the US) who have said they were more or less fine in 6 weeks. We have both been very reassured by all the posts here. We very much appreciate you honesty - makes complete sense. Thank you very much :)

maggie80 profile image
maggie80 in reply to fishonabike

You couldn't have put it any better.

Alphakiwi profile image
Alphakiwi

A friend of mine had a valve in his heart replaced when he was 22. It took a few weeks to recover. Eleven yrs later that valve was replaced so he was 33. It took a few MONTHS to recover. So as you can see the older you get the longer it takes.

Positivepants2022 profile image
Positivepants2022 in reply to Alphakiwi

A very good point Alphakiwi ...age is a big factor. Thank you.

Billett profile image
Billett

I had a double by pass valve repair and another artuary cleaned out im 10 weeks post op its only the last 2 weeks that i have felt i am improving day by day it will get better and its small steps and some days are different to others i was surprised how weak i felt after losing muscle mass and strength and how quick but you do regain especially after rehab and exercise just keep the faith 6 weeks is early days

Thank you for sharing your experience and for your encouragement Billett ...much appreciated. Hope you continue along your path to complete recovery.

You may also like...

Eating After Heart Bypass

Hi I am two weeks post triple bypass surgery. so far everything is healing well. However,I am...

Feeling the cold after bypass

suffered the cold after bypass? My husband is almost 4 weeks post op and constantly feels cold and...

This is normal after a heart bypass, isn't it?

husband had a bypass on Friday, a double if that makes a difference. 3 nights in ICU, chest...

Two weeks after bypass.

quite breathless after a couple of hundred metres. I also get some pain in the ribs. Going up...

Numb Thigh After Heart Bypass

with a reduced ability to feel anything (very similar to the left side of my chest which I was...