I can’t believe I’m writing this just three weeks after I joined this forum and was full of positivity. I took screenshots and shared them with my partner and we were hopeful for a better quality of life for him.
I lost my love yesterday and I’m broken. All I can say is hold your loved ones close and cherish every single second. I wasn’t in the house with him at the time and the unbelievable pain I’m in ….I can’t describe. I hope he knows he was loved and didn’t suffer in pain.
I may not be able to reply or add more information yet as I’m struggling to process it all…but a huge thank you to everyone who took the time to reply to my last post. Enjoy the time with your loved ones and tell them all you love them just one extra time for me.
Thank you all so much for your kind words of support. I love my partner immensely and I know he knows that. What’s hard for me to accept is that his illness changed our lives and our relationship. We had so many tough times and so many arguments that I just wish I could turn back the time and change it all. We also had incredible moments of love and although it changed our relationship, it didn’t change our love. Just so many things left unsaid and so many things I wish I could change. I’m feeling immense guilt and sadness for all the things left unsaid and all the things I didn’t get to do and I pray that one day we are reunited so I can say it all. Sending love to everyone who is living through this illness with their loved ones. I know it’s so hard but I treasure the last two years we had since he became unwell, regardless of the tough times. Love to you all xxx
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I’m just so sorry for your loss you must be devastated this is just letting you know I’m thinking about you and pray that your being looked after yourself take care my friend love and as many virtual hugs I can send to you ❤️❤️❤️Xxx
I feel for your loss, it has been a very difficult time for you since the first diagnosis. Now the worst has happened. Please take time for yourself to process everything from the last few weeks. I found writing the best way to release my anger, you must take care of yourself. It will take time, everyone grieves at a different pace. Thinking of you! Take care. Moni
You sound immensely conscientious and loving. Your partner was very fortunate to have you, and I'm sure he felt so. 'What else could I have done?' is a normal part of grieving. Take good care of yourself, Hearts.....
This is so sad to read. I'm very sorry for your loss. I'm sure your partner knew how much he was loved. I hope you find comfort and support reading all the posts from people on this site. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time
So sorry for your loss, thoughts are with you Hearts2021 x
So sorry for your loss. It's a dreadful shock. Hugs and prayers for you and your family. I'm sure He knew He was well looked after by you and loved. God bless you and accept all the help offered at this sad time x x
So very sorry to read your post. You sound so loving so I’m sure your partner knew how much you loved him. Heartfelt condolences. Please be kind to yourself in this difficult time. Know that it will get better. You won’t forget but will be able to cherish and enjoy your memories in time and that gives you strength to continue 💕
I can’t imagine how crushed you are feeling there are no words I can offer that will help so sorry. I’m sure though you life so far and to live will be enriched by your wonderful partner
So sad to hear your news and I hope you have people to support you at home. Although all our circumstances are different of course you will always find people here to listen and reach out to you. .
I am so sorry to hear this news. Try not to beat yourself up too much, it's natural do do so, but you did your best to help, he was loved and that's all you could have done. Take care , you are so young to have to go through this and at such a difficult time too. I hope you have some good friends around you for support.
So sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you..
I’m so sorry for your sad loss. I’m sure your husband knew how much you loved him. We all think back on lives shared with departed loved ones and wish we could make the past even more perfect. Make the most of your very happy memories. ❤️❤️❤️
I’m so sorry to hear about your husband and offer my sincere condolences. I’m sure that how you're feeling is normal. I don't have any answers on how to find your way going forward and can only wish you find peace.
So sorry to read this. Nobody could have done more than you have. I can only imagine how you are feeling at the moment. My thoughts are with you. Fiona
Dearest Hearts2021 - firstly, I am so, so sorry for your loss. You could have been describing the loss of my darling husband in June 2019. From the time he came home from hospital for the last time to the day he died totalled 13 precious days. I am grateful every single day for the fact that he was able to be at home with me, as that is the only place he wanted to be. I have felt guilt, too, raging anger and desperate sorrow, often all in the same day, and I still don't have the words to describe how I miss him. We, too, went through all the various ups and downs of what was a wonderful relationship and I, too, find myself wishing I'd done certain things differently, or said certain things, but I have absolutely no doubt at all that he knew that he was the love of my life, and that I would have done absolutely anything for him. I know, too, that if the tables had been turned, he would have done exactly the same for me, and your man, too, would have been the same. Thank goodness that you and I have experienced such love in our lives - the only thing is, it hurts so very much when they're gone. I hope you have as much love and support from your friends and family as I have been fortunate to have - in that respect, I am incredibly lucky. Please look after yourself, but also indulge yourself if you need to. XXXXXX
So very sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you. Sending love and keeping you in my thoughts 💕💐
So sorry you’re suffering the sad loss of your partner. I don’t post much myself but I know from reading posts on here that there are a lot of people who will help and support you if you stay and one day reach out to them when you feel able.In the meantime, my prayers will include you xx
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