Beautiful day

[0163SLH]

Really not coping even though it's a beautiful day outside. Really trying not to think about negative things but seems impossible 😕

[RufusScamp]

I'm sorry to hear you are feeling so bad. Can you get out into the sunshine for a bit. I'm sitting outside listening to the birds.It is so easy to get trapped in negative thoughts. We have all been there when not feeling so well. You can come out the other side no matter how dark things seem. Can you make some plans for the future to give yourself something to look forward to?

[0163SLH in reply to RufusScamp]

Thank you. Yes sat outside enjoying the sunshine that's when I started feeling this way . Strange turn of event I know. I do have some plans for the future just can't concentrate on them at the moment as hard as I try . Hate feeling sorry for myself xx

[Retirement65]

Just to say rufuscamp hit the nailOn the head we’ve all been there worrying constantly it absolutely messes with your head I would say understandably I know I have health anxiety 😟 and sometimes it’s because you just want to see light at the end of the tunnel but try to do things all the time to take your mind off health I know it’s easier said than done but that’s what I had to do it was driving me mad constantly worrying my husband bought me crayoning books I know it might sound daft but when it starts to get out of control for me out come the pencils it’s all about distraction in the end whatever works for you good luck you know your not on your own here 😊

[0163SLH in reply to Retirement65]

Thank you ❤

[Kwagmire in reply to 0163SLH]

Hi I totally know what your saying Iv been there but please worry will get you nowhere a doctor told me a while ago. it is what it is. And that’s so true we just have to make the most of our situation so please try to stop worrying godbless you kwagmire??

[Hidden]

Hello

Sorry you are feeling this way I know only to well what it feels like and yes the Sun is shining and yes we can sit outside at last after a long Winter but the negative thoughts are not so easy to change unlike the weather

I had 3 heart attacks and waiting for a Bypass and it takes up my every thought from waking up to going back to bed , I dread each day trying to get through it

I could give you loads of suggestions what to do but would feel like a hypocrite as I have suffered with anxiety so long so I can talk the talk but I am unable to walk the walk as they say

But sometimes it is ok to have these thoughts , trying to fight them can make them even bigger thoughts sometimes because the fear we are feeling trying to flea makes our brains think there really is something to fear if this makes any sense

Just hold on to the thought that no matter what you are in good hands , your Doctors and Nurses are making sure everything is going to be ok and it will be

You have here to come and talk and you are not alone and today has not been so great but tomorrow is another day

I am having to take a day at a time , sometimes an hour or even minutes at a time but that is fine as long as I get through the day

Hope you feel a little better later x

[0163SLH in reply to Hidden]

Thank you be kind ❤ I have screen shot this and will make sure I read it when I feel this way again. You made me smile and for that I thank you from the bottom of my still working heart xx

[Hidden in reply to 0163SLH]

I love it , my still working heart I say that to myself to but let's try and I know how hard this is , I feel I am losing the plot but they will be looked after and working a long , long time

You have got this you may not feel like it but you know one day you will look back and think I wish I had not made myself so ill with worry because look at me now

We will get through this , others have so can we x

[0163SLH in reply to Hidden]

❤

[Peugeot207pwv in reply to Hidden]

Read your posts over the last few days, and about your severe anxiety, PTSD etc, also the lovely replies you had… have you had a general anaesthetic before? I am in my 60’s never had a GA before & on meds for depression, anxiety, panic attack & PTSD. When I ended up in hospital in France (Afib) where I live, the language problem didn’t help, but worse the way the staff there did not seem to understand mental illness as everyone here just seems to ‘get on with it’ they wanted me to have cardioversion, but I walked out. My saving grace for this past year has been calls to BHF.. where they actually listen and try to help…they don’t believe in pre meds here, all I wanted was to be able to take a Valium.. as for having anything intrusive done, I would probably die of fright if they tried! You sound as though you are getting help and support for your upcoming bypass? Well done for you to speak out & wish you the very best.

[Hidden in reply to Peugeot207pwv]

Hello

I have had anesthetic before and before my angiogram they gave me something that was to help relax me but I have no clue what it was and have to say it did not work that well

My anxiety is so strong it takes quite a lot to calm me down

When I had my first heart attack I got into such a state they gave me 28mg of Valium and I was still awake shaking and crying full of fear , I remember the Doctor keep glancing at me as if to wonder why on earth with all that has that women not calmed down !

My Doctor is trying so hard to get me some support and is having a meeting soon but it seems it is just not out there

I have cried to her and she is very good she knows how much I am suffering and she knows how much I need support it is just getting it , we seem to be lacking the resources , it leaves me feeling very different as there seems to be no help

I talk to my Cardiac Nurse but of course she is not Mental Health trained which is what I need as well

I think sometimes the knowledge that health issues are not always physical but can be Mental to which needs just as much care is missing

Yes I am overwhelmed at everyone's kindness I thought no one would answer or because I mentioned I had so many issues they would want to avoid me ( you find this in the real world ) but I could not have been so wrong !

I am sorry you suffer to , I know how you feel

Thank you as well for taking the time to reply I appreciate it so much and despite how I am suffering each reply makes you feel someone cares which means so much x

[GrannyH101 in reply to Hidden]

hi there, I also want to say that you are not alone, I had my heart attack back in November 20, Im still on the climbing out curve, I feel very scared a lot of the time, but as a friend said, it takes time... be kind to yourself, we can do this...

[Hidden in reply to GrannyH101]

Hello

Sorry to hear you have had a heart attack and struggling to

But thank you for been encouraging in your reply as you will know you feel you will never get out of how you feel but I do as at this moment this is not a life I am living just fear all day every day

I hope you are having some Sunshine where you are , I have had to come in because it is to hot in our garden !

Thank You again x

[Peugeot207pwv in reply to Hidden]

You are more brave & strong than you realise.. you have done so well so far and I truly know how much that has taken for you. Please keep in touch on here, as younare an inspiration to so many who can’t speak out…

[Hidden in reply to Peugeot207pwv]

Thank You so much , it is not very often anyone says anything positive about me with all my issues and your comment brought a tear to me eye , I really appreciate it x

[Hidden]

HiGuess what?

It’s going to shine tomorrow too!

Keep going. One day at a time and I’m sure you will get there.

Please believe that people are there for you and the professionals , when they get to you, are the best.

Don’t beat yourself up because it’s a nice day and you have to be anything other that what you’re feeling.

Promise yourself that tomorrow , you will feel like going out and listening to nature and breathe it in. In the park, on your road, your garden, or just open a window.

Start with a deep breath.

Be kind to yourself.

[R3mi]

How many negative thoughts have you had over the last hour and how many of them have actually affected you physically. Are you still here sitting or standing in the one place. Then where is the first thought you had has it changed anything are you still here. Look on thoughts as clouds they are overhead for a while but then they move on to somewhere else and new one’s come along that’s all thoughts are passing clouds.If the thought is showing you something that must be done soon do it and then anther cloud has gone away.

⛅️⛅️⛅️⛅️⛅️⛅️ Good clouding

[LBCdance]

Don't be too hard on yourself, you are "allowed" now and then to feel down and sorry for yourself and most people have been there (you would be sympathetic and encouraging to anybody else in your position wouldn't you), but the usual mantra, take a day at a time, learn to love yourself, you are worth it, and recognise when you are having a bad day that you've been there before and emerged from it, and will do so again. This is a good place to say these things - with friends and family you feel obliged to put a good face on all the time I find.

[0163SLH]

BEAUTIFUL, BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE YOU ALL ARE ❤ TODAY WILL BE A GOOD DAY !!!

[Misstibbs]

In the words of Sir Captain Tom ‘tomorrow will be better’ try to look forward and note all the things you did achieve today not least letting us all know how you’re feeling

[0163SLH in reply to Misstibbs]

I will , thank you 😊

[Hearty21]

Hi. It is so easy to get trapped in negative thoughts. When I had heart attack in first week of Feb 2021, it really broke me into pieces. It was more than mental struggle than physical. I am 40 years old and had no underlying health issue. Was Running every day and watching what I ate.

Please pick yourself up. Things will get better but you really need to focus on positive things. On days like these, I would be somewhere on beach or on a mountain with my family but I know things have changed for me. This doesn’t mean I may never be able to do these things again, we just have to take one day at a time and try to improve our mental/ physical and spiritual health. For now I’m just enjoying sunshine in my garden and trying to focus on bright side of things. It is hard to do but we don’t have a choice

Wish you all the best

[Bobbymrg]

Dont beat yourself up about negative thoughts accept there present and try not not to fear them. I get very anxious and talk to the thought or the anxiety and say ok anxiety your here I'm going to work alongside of you. It helps to dissolve the strength of anxiety.

Come on and talk about anything your feeling it's ok to feel negative. Were here to help and listen we have all been in the same place.

Keep going one day at a time.

Steve