Partner emotions

[willsie01]

Seems a long time ago but in reality my heart problem only became known to me when it was diagnosed first week in April. 2 months ago.

I guess I’ve been pretty self absorbed, if that’s the right way of putting it, since then. Feelings of isolation waiting for CABG; frustration at “frail old man” feelings; future health prospects; ditto fitness; mortality. Summed up as feeling sorry for myself.

Last night I was woken up at 2:0am by the sound of my wife lying beside me sobbing. How could I have not been aware of how this is affecting her as well as me. Got to start thinking how to keep my fears to myself and not download on her.

[banana1982]

I'm in your wife's position, it's hard trying to keep functioning and staying strong when you are worried about the health of your loved ones. As you know these types of illnesses don't creep up on you they hit you like a bolt of the blue so the shock is huge for both of you. I suspect you both have the same fears, for me it's worrying if it will happen again, what his long term health will be and when it's really bad am I going to widowed at a young age, and then I'm hit by how selfish that seems.

Please don't stop talking to your wife, it's the communication that will help you get through this difficult stage. But I'm sure there us lots of help out there

Wishing you a speedy recovery

[6TIMES]

I'M far from being an expert on advice but I'd say that you are a couple.a partnership.share everything and a problem shared etc.at least you have someone to talk to about things.good luck

[Lezzers]

As the partner of someone who has heart failure I would say please don't hide things from your wife. She will know when things are not right with you & you not being open with her will probably make her feel worse. Nothing wrong with your wife releasing her emotions, it's totally understandable, you're both involved here. Plus, reading about your concern for your wife I think it's unlikely you have been downloading on her. Please go to re-hab if you're offered & ask your wife to attend some of the sessions with you, this help my husband & myself enormously when he was first poorly. It is early days on this heart journey for you both, it will get easier but do also consider counselling. Take care x