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Hi all,

I can’t believe I’m writing this just three weeks after I joined this forum and was full of positivity. I took screenshots and shared them with my partner and we were hopeful for a better quality of life for him.

I lost my love yesterday and I’m broken. All I can say is hold your loved ones close and cherish every single second. I wasn’t in the house with him at the time and the unbelievable pain I’m in ….I can’t describe. I hope he knows he was loved and didn’t suffer in pain.

I may not be able to reply or add more information yet as I’m struggling to process it all…but a huge thank you to everyone who took the time to reply to my last post. Enjoy the time with your loved ones and tell them all you love them just one extra time for me.

Thank you all so much for your kind words of support. I love my partner immensely and I know he knows that. What’s hard for me to accept is that his illness changed our lives and our relationship. We had so many tough times and so many arguments that I just wish I could turn back the time and change it all. We also had incredible moments of love and although it changed our relationship, it didn’t change our love. Just so many things left unsaid and so many things I wish I could change. I’m feeling immense guilt and sadness for all the things left unsaid and all the things I didn’t get to do and I pray that one day we are reunited so I can say it all. Sending love to everyone who is living through this illness with their loved ones. I know it’s so hard but I treasure the last two years we had since he became unwell, regardless of the tough times. Love to you all xxx

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I'm sorry for your loss, a very difficult time for you.

I wasn't with my husband when he went and it haunts me everyday, he was in hospital so not alone but we couldn't be there.

Take each day as it comes and you will recover in time x

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I am so sorry for your loss.

Sorry for your loss Hearts2021

So sorry to read that.In my thoughts x

So sorry for your loss. x

So sorry for your loss ❤️ xxx

I am so sorry to read your post, I send you my condolences with the hope you can find peace and strength.

Pauline

I’m so sorry . Big hug. X

I am so very sorry for your loss.

I’m just so sorry for your loss you must be devastated this is just letting you know I’m thinking about you and pray that your being looked after yourself take care my friend love and as many virtual hugs I can send to you ❤️❤️❤️Xxx

Sorry for your loss.

You did everything you could...and then some.

I’m so so sorry for your loss, my deepest heart felt condolences to you and the family. We are all here for you when you are ready . Much love

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I feel for your loss, it has been a very difficult time for you since the first diagnosis. Now the worst has happened. Please take time for yourself to process everything from the last few weeks. I found writing the best way to release my anger, you must take care of yourself. It will take time, everyone grieves at a different pace. Thinking of you! Take care. Moni

I'm so sorry Hearts2021.I'm sure your partner knew how much you loved him and that helped him during his health struggles.May he rest in peace.

I am so very sorry to hear this.

You sound immensely conscientious and loving. Your partner was very fortunate to have you, and I'm sure he felt so. 'What else could I have done?' is a normal part of grieving. Take good care of yourself, Hearts.....

So sorry for your loss

Godbless you lv kwagmire ?

This is so sad to read. I'm very sorry for your loss. I'm sure your partner knew how much he was loved. I hope you find comfort and support reading all the posts from people on this site. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this difficult time

So sorry for your loss, thoughts are with you Hearts2021 x

Saddest time of my life, But your family and friends will be with you mine have got me through everyday of the last seven years 💔❤️‍🩹❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️X

So very sorry for you. X

So sorry for your loss such a sad time for you and your families. XxSending love and hugs

My thoughts are with you at this very sad time. So sorry for your loss. x

So sorry for your loss 💔

I feel so very sad for you, your heart must be breaking. Thinking of you ❤️❤️❤️

Very sorry to hear of your loss. You have done so very well, I'm sure your partner knew how much you cared for him. Best wishes 💔

So sorry to hear your news. I’ve been in your situation, accept all offered help and don’t pretend to be OK. Big Hug, you’ll get through this.X

So sorry for your loss. I send my sincere condolences to you.

So, so sorry.

So sorry for your loss. 😞

So sorry Take care

So sorry for your loss. It's a dreadful shock. Hugs and prayers for you and your family. I'm sure He knew He was well looked after by you and loved. God bless you and accept all the help offered at this sad time x x

Bless you and your family.

So sorry to read of your loss. Take care of yourself and be kind to yourself.Jane

I am really sad to hear of your loss. Hoping you get love and support from those around you at this time. Condolences to you and the family.

Sorry to hear of your loss. I hope that time is kind to you and brings you some peace. xx

Really sad to hear.

So very sorry to read your post. You sound so loving so I’m sure your partner knew how much you loved him. Heartfelt condolences. Please be kind to yourself in this difficult time. Know that it will get better. You won’t forget but will be able to cherish and enjoy your memories in time and that gives you strength to continue 💕

So sorry for your loss ♥️x

I can’t imagine how crushed you are feeling there are no words I can offer that will help so sorry. I’m sure though you life so far and to live will be enriched by your wonderful partner

That's so sad to read. Take some time to lick your wounds and heal. 😢

So sorry for your loss, sending a virtual hug ❤️ we are all here for you 😘x

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So so sorry for your loss.

So very sorry to hear of your loss. What a huge shock for you. Im sure your partner knew how much he was loved every day. Take good care of yourself x

So sorry to hear of your loss.

So sorry for your loss 💔

So sorry for your loss.

I'm so sorry for your loss.💔

So sorry for your loss. Hang on to the lovely memories you have of him xx

So sad to hear your news and I hope you have people to support you at home. Although all our circumstances are different of course you will always find people here to listen and reach out to you. .

Im so very sorry x

So sorry for your loss, take care of yourself and lean on those around you xxx

I’m sorry for your loss

My heart goes out to you xxx

So sorry for your loss xxx

So sorry for your loss, I am thinking of you and your family's. Take care.

Ruth

Im so sorry for your loss x

I’m so very sorry for your loss xx

Sorry to hear of your Sad News, Deepest sympathy to you and All your Family. Much love ❤️xx

So very sorry for your loss, sending strength & love xxx

I am so sorry to hear this news. Try not to beat yourself up too much, it's natural do do so, but you did your best to help, he was loved and that's all you could have done. Take care , you are so young to have to go through this and at such a difficult time too. I hope you have some good friends around you for support.

So sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you..

So sorry for your loss.x

I’m so sorry for your sad loss. I’m sure your husband knew how much you loved him. We all think back on lives shared with departed loved ones and wish we could make the past even more perfect. Make the most of your very happy memories. ❤️❤️❤️

So sorry for your loss, sincere condolences...

I’m so sorry to hear about your husband and offer my sincere condolences. I’m sure that how you're feeling is normal. I don't have any answers on how to find your way going forward and can only wish you find peace.

So sorry to read this. Nobody could have done more than you have. I can only imagine how you are feeling at the moment. My thoughts are with you. Fiona

I'm thinking of you and am so saddened by this news. God bless to you, all your family and friends.

Love and strength to you at this sad time ❤️

Hello Hearts2021, I'm so so sorry to hear about your loss, I send love and hugs...take care xx

I’m so sorry for your loss! May God grant you peace 💛

So sorry for your loss 🙏

sorry for your loss, sending love.

Dearest Hearts2021 - firstly, I am so, so sorry for your loss. You could have been describing the loss of my darling husband in June 2019. From the time he came home from hospital for the last time to the day he died totalled 13 precious days. I am grateful every single day for the fact that he was able to be at home with me, as that is the only place he wanted to be. I have felt guilt, too, raging anger and desperate sorrow, often all in the same day, and I still don't have the words to describe how I miss him. We, too, went through all the various ups and downs of what was a wonderful relationship and I, too, find myself wishing I'd done certain things differently, or said certain things, but I have absolutely no doubt at all that he knew that he was the love of my life, and that I would have done absolutely anything for him. I know, too, that if the tables had been turned, he would have done exactly the same for me, and your man, too, would have been the same. Thank goodness that you and I have experienced such love in our lives - the only thing is, it hurts so very much when they're gone. I hope you have as much love and support from your friends and family as I have been fortunate to have - in that respect, I am incredibly lucky. Please look after yourself, but also indulge yourself if you need to. XXXXXX

So very sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you. Sending love and keeping you in my thoughts 💕💐

So sorry you’re suffering the sad loss of your partner. I don’t post much myself but I know from reading posts on here that there are a lot of people who will help and support you if you stay and one day reach out to them when you feel able.In the meantime, my prayers will include you xx

Love and hugs is all I can offer.

So sorry for your loss I lost my hus 8mth ago from covid and I too wasn't there with him it still hurts but God willing time will heal take carex

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