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Not so happy with myself

Hello all. I'm Pam I'm 50yrsold and I just joined. It's good to know that there are odthers out there that have the same kind of issues. But lately I have been feeling really down because I'm going through menopause and my bodly I'd changing and my weight keeps going up and up. And it's gotten me so depressing I tried everything to lose weight and can't manage. I hate the way I feel and look I feel as if everyone is starring at me. Any advice In how to get through this and feel better about myself?

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Please see your gynae. Hormone replacement therapy - hrt may be the solution.

As the age advances the fat in our body becomes difficult to get rid of. But take less carb and less calorie. During this period of life one tends to eat more and carbs more. Take care of this.

Gud luk

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Hello Pam2245

I'm terribly sorry you are feeling so down... r u married? Any kids? Grandkids? The reason I ask is I feel ur pain. I too dnt feel good or like what I see, and my weight well let's just say, I can't wear most of my BEAUTIFUL clothes in my closet anymore. But my fAmily is my focus, I want to live for them I want to strive to be happy for them because I don't want them to remember me miserable... I know I need this for me too but thinking about it for me, just makes me more stressed and fatigued. So if i have a reason it pushes me to try harder. Try multivitamins and the Turmeric during the day, along with 5htp and L theanine at night for a mood ELAVATOR the next morning it helps. Many blessings to u and urs!

Regards, Kendra


First things first. I've never gone through a real.menopause , but know it can play havoc with your body

. You are the same loveable person you've always been. You can still love your body because u understand your hormones are leaving it and therefore slowing down ur metabolism. I can suggest when u need comfort foods grab an apple or orange instead of something filled with fat and sugar. Try to keep up with your normal daily routine and perhaps increase your walking if possible

I have chronic COPD, and by doing these things my breathing has improved and I've slowly lost 7 llbs

I hope this suggestion helps along with sticking a note on your mirror reminding yourself that you are, pretty, have compassion, and helpful when needed. Then give a big smile back at yourself



Hi pam. I can relate to how you feel. I am trying to be pro active about the problem by reading every book ever written on binge eating I can find ( in library and on amazon kindle) also watching TV documentarys on it on Netflix and you tube. And it seems to be helping. Main thing I have learnt so far is its not about diet it's about therapising yourself. Paid therapy also an option if you have cash. ( I don't atm). The book I am reading today is. Never binge again on amazon. Hope this helps. Just remember. It's not all our fault we are in this mess with eating problems. And we are one of hundreds of thousands with this problem. ☺