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Well the deed was completed !

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I have bought a funeral plan.

I thought I'd feel better and it would put my mind at rest but I've felt down and depressed, but I suppose it had to be done.

Hope you're all well

Chloe

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Chloe

I haven't done this yet but I am getting my estate in order. I'm sure this will come up in the planning.

I truly think this is a wonderful gift to your family or whoever may be your executor.

I've had to do the work for siblings and it's such a difficult time to be thinking of these things.

Good job getting that done

❤️🐬

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I’m sorry that it’s made you feel down Chloe. Why do you think that is ? Do you have a fear of dying maybe. Maybe it’s just the initial trauma of getting everything organised & you’ll feel relieved in awhile. I can only speak for myself that I was pleased when I’d organised myself & my husband’s departure.

I’m still sorting through my possessions & boy has it caused family rumbles. Beginning to think a detailed will would’ve been easier. Who’d of thought fights would be had over a few old war medals 🙄 sorted for now.

I seem to be surrounded by death atm. Friends & family & it’s awful. Going to see my B-I-L today who’s just been told he has two months having been told previously that it was all in his head. It’s all so sad & shocking. Unfortunately the cancer has now spread to his brain so am not sure what to expect today.

Wish brighter days for you Chloe x

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Hi Caza

I don't know what why this is but I'm sure once decisions are made, hopefully I'll forget about it.

Really sorry to hear about your B-I-L, my neighbour has this and he's the strongest willed man I ever met. He knows what's coming and he still insists on giving away as much of his things as he can, so he's not a nuisance to his daughter!

well done for sorting it. I know how you’re feeling. I had the same. I don’t know what causes it , possibly admitting to yourself you’re not immortal and this too shall pass, or stiring up painful memories of sorting others past funerals but you’ve done it, it will fade from the forefront of your thoughts soon. Bless ya. Well done. Your family will be comforted by your decision one day. Now put it on the back boiler and pat yourself on the back. Take care 🦊x

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Thanks Hidden

Yes, I’m sure you’ve right. I didn’t want to put my loved ones through that, so I’m glad from that aspect.

x

All should do this. I did this in my forties, and I'm glad I did. I paid for a cremations and to have my ashes scattered over the Playboy jacuzzi (with plenty of tetracycline!). Death is inevitable for every life form that ever was, is. or will be. It's the natural result of life. Read STARING AT THE SUN by psychiatrist Irvin Yalom. It's about getting over the fear of death.

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Hello Hidden

You’re right of course, thank you.

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