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5th of July last would have been my brother's funeral

The fifth of July would have been my Brother's funeral it was on a Tuesday last year. I know the day is the same but it is still hard for me I keeping it started at 12.30pm Tuesday 5th of July 2016. and at that time I will be thinking of what went on. during the service we all wore Welsh red Rugby or football shirts or teeshirts. The eulogy was read out and the organist played two Welsh hymns and The Welsh National Anthem which was played while walking out. there was a picture of my Brother on top of the Coffin. I fee l like crying today I miss my brother so very much I loved him so.

I Hope you understand.

Love

Stafford

(Staff)

xxx

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Hi staff.

I must admit anniversary s or funeral dates was a bad time for me too I think we all get them I used to feel like on those days was like reliving the grief all over again...

I know it's hard I really do and you're going to be emotional..

How about instead of remembering how he died.... remember how he lived...

Do something that he liked... relive what made him laugh how close you were remember he is always with you..

As I say these days are hard and emotional your only human with a loving heart who is grieving talk to him ask him for a sign he's there...I do my mum I always get a sign it could take days but I will get one ....

Take care will be thinking of you.

Love NAT

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HI NAT

Thank you for your kind message iam going to my local park where his friends have put a bench up in Mike's memory and I am going to put some flowers there.in memory of him. I have already being crying this morning. I am really feeling the grief some people don't understand my auntie says mike would be telling us off for crying do you think that is true? I Can't help feeling like this. my friend will say look to the future I can't why do people say these things when I am feeling so low today. I am almost afraid to tell her how I feel at the time she was understanding. I feel that I am losing her support if she says that I might get angry or even cry.

I will keep in touch Nat.

Thanks for thinking about me

Love

STAFFORD (Staff)

xxxx

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Hi I understand totally. My mothers birthday was 4th June, she died on the 19th and the funeral was 28th. I hate June now and it's a total washout for me.

Just try and get through the day as it does get a bit easier over time. I think remembering him is very important and if you want to cry then do. Thinking of you.

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Dear Staff . I do understand. Not only have I lost my two brothers, but my mother and husband as well....I only have ( and with great pride and fear) my 3 children left

AVB

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That is a lovely thing to do for him staff..

All you can do honey is get through the day the best you can your grieving and missing your brother there's nothing wrong with that some people who make comments like that either never lost anyone close or they just don't know what to say to you...

You will grieve in your own way deal with your loss the way you want to there's no time limit on grief you do what ever in your own time like Hidden said cry if you want to...

I used to get "don't you think it's time you let your mum go" oooh I would get really angry the answer to that in my eyes is No Never??? And your Aunt probably means he wouldn't want you to suffer he wouldn't tell you off I'm sure not if anything he will be proud of how strong you are xx

Love NAT xxx

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Stafford - I just listened to the Welsh national anthem. Hearing it at your brother's funeral must have been a lovely tribute.

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HI JayKay777

Thank you for you message the welsh national anthem is beautiful isn't it?

I cried when it was played it made me feel very emotional and proud as we were walking behind the coffin going out.

Thank you again

Stafford

xxx

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I know you must miss your brother terribly. And I know he is looking down on you and blessing you every day. Just have quiet moments when you put everything else out of your mind and think of him and remember the good times. Thank the Lord for all the good times you had with your brother and praise the Lord for that. Pretty soon you will be feeling much much better when you realize you are never alone. I'll be praying for you that God will give you His peace.

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