Info for the Chlamydia

[Juli_ana]

Hello!

Me and my partner we are positive with chlamydia. I don’t understand how we get it, without have sex with somebody else. Me I don’t believe on him and he doesn’t believe on me, he is accusing me like he got it from me, because he didn’t have never problems. We had symptoms but i catched first. I took it treatment I finished, but my partner no, so after that we had sex. We spoke with the sexual health clinic and they recommended to start again the treatment both of us. So we started for me is the second time. My question is can the gynaecologist find out if one of us went with somebody else from the cells or any analysis testing, he wants to do every analysis to find if I had sex with somebody else.I told him I’m ready to do everything, but have chances to find out this or how or from who we got it.

Please I need this help because I’m going again back to the depression from this story.

[Galen70]

No there is no test which can tell which partner had chlamydia first , I'm afraid. Consider relationship counselling if it continues to be an issue. Both men and women can have it with no symptoms. Did either of you have chlamydia testing before this ?

[Juli_ana in reply to Galen70]

Thank you for the reply Galen.No never I didn’t have any infection.

I was afraid from him because he was married and he had anal sex with her and that time we was together and also she use to take a treatment but I don’t know for what. I don’t understand. He said he wants to do cells analysis to see if I cheated on him, but is not me I didn’t went with somebody else. 😔😔

[Wolverbean in reply to Juli_ana]

I think the cell analysis he is talking about is an empty threat. I don’t think it exists.

[Juli_ana in reply to Wolverbean]

I don’t know I’m really very bad mentally, 4 days now he is just accusing me. I really didn’t do anything to say I cheated on him.

[Wolverbean]

Like Galen says, I think you need help regarding your relationship. But it is possible one of you contracted the infection before you became a couple. The other possibility is that he has cheated and contracted the infection and is now pushing it on to you, to divert from himself.

[Juli_ana in reply to Wolverbean]

This I told him. But is my second relationship my second man in my life. So before I was married I was with him 5 years we didn’t have anything I have done many analysis because I had 2 miscarriage so I have done everything to find problems but nothing. So now I get chlamydia, and he said he’s ex wife was clear. Is just you that’s what he’s keep saying.

[Galen70 in reply to Juli_ana]

The important thing here is that you have found the cause of the problem , have been treated, and can move forward. If he cant accept you have not been with anyone else , then I think a relationship counsellor is the only way forward. There is no "cells" test.

[Juli_ana in reply to Galen70]

Thank you very much Galen 🙏🏻

[Galen70 in reply to Juli_ana]

You are welcome I hope things get sorted out for you.

[toastkid]

It is very possible that he, or you, could have caught it from a previous partner, since chlamydia can be asymptomatic for a long time.

Either way, you need to run far away from him. He sounds like he could become nasty and he's already a very suspicious person. This is not a safe relationship.

[toastkid in reply to toastkid]

That said, I just read your comments and if you're sure you didn't have it previously, and you haven't cheated then he's the problem and he's absolutely pushing the blame onto you. He's also clearly using your relative inexperience with relationships - you say he's only your second relationship - to gaslight you and manipulate you into accepting blame for what appears to be something he's responsible for, and this is NOT OKAY.

[Juli_ana in reply to toastkid]

I really love him for this I can not say anything to break up now but I told him I’ll be open to do any checks and analysis do you want to find it from who came. And after maybe to break up because anyway he is not believing me, and even me him.