Should I Come off the pill? I have no sex drive

[YasmineLD]

Hello,

I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years and I started the pill just as we got together when I was 18. Ever since being on the pill I have been extremely anxious about developing a DVT as since being 18, my right calf has increased in size and I have more visible veins/pains in my leg. This could be down to my job which I have to stand all shift long but either way, I have always mentioned it to doctors when renewing my pills and they consider me to be fine. Anyway... at first I was on rigevidon for about a year and I was fine on it but my legs worried me so I changed to maxeni and somewhere between this change my sex drive plummeted hard and fast. I have never, ever had an issue with sex drive in my life, I loved sex a lot up until this point so to suddenly have a decreased libido was really hard to deal with. Unfortunately, almost two years later, I am still suffering with low libido. I have changed to another pill, I’ve spoke to my GP in case it was a medical issue and nothing has ever come of it. One doctor did ask if I still fancied my boyfriend and the answer is yes, it’s not him, I feel like my biggest celeb crush could try it on with me and I’d feel nothing. Right now, I feel like I need to come off the pill because I feel like this is what’s causing my low sex drive. I almost feel like my reproductive system has been sent to sleep. This is causing such a problem in my life, I have worried about it every day for the past 18 months. I feel horrible, I’m only 21 and I have a sex drive problem.

So it’s my pill break tomorrow and I’m thinking of not going back on it. I haven’t had intercourses in 3 months anyway so what is the point in me even taking it! I love my boyfriend and this negatively impacts our relationship and I feel responsible. Luckily he is really supportive and he has stuck by me and been so patient. I want to come out the other side of this.

Do you think I should go off the pill, let my body adjust for 6-12 months and if I want to go back on contraception I can try other methods??

I feel like I need someone else advice before taking this step and I don’t know why.

But anyway, thanks in advance

[Galen70]

Low libido can be a complex issue. You mentioned switching pills , but both Rigevidon and Maexeni are both generic versions of levonogestrel/oestradiol. So you changed brands but not hormones. I would in the first instance change your contraception. Either to a totally different combined pill with a different osetrogen, or to a copper coil, or even to just condoms only - if you are a reliable condom user. And then see the results. Low mood, anxiety, stress , thyroid problems other medical conditions, all of these could cause low libido. But first - change your contraception .

[Gia_9]

Hey there, I can possibly understand your concern about your pill. I mean people go on the pills because they want to stay protected even with active sexual life. So when you don't have libido at all what's the point of staying on pills. But I wouldn't recommend you to go off pills not just yet. Losing the libido is sometimes also the effect of pills.... which usually fades off sometime later. Though it can sometimes appear and disappear as well which makes the situation even more hopelessly irksome. I wouldn't say you need to go to doc for this at all.. It's mostly the individual reception that's responsible for which symptoms will appear and which will not .... so changing the pill brand might not work. Better to look for ways to boost your sex life. I mean why not think out of the box for a while.