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[Jayzinc12]

I’ve been with my boyfriend almost a year, middle of May I started to get symptoms of genital herpes, I went to the clinic they says it looks like so. I have NEVER cheated in anyway and neither has he. I’ve told him straight away. I get my results back on Friday. How do I make him see that either one of us could’ve had it for years, and that I only just got symptoms.

[Ell8]

Hey, my best advice would be if you do find out you have it and you want a good source of information go to the uk Herpes sites. The American ones tend to be full of scaremongering.

When I first found out it felt like the end of the world and its taken me a long time to fully come to terms with it. Nearly 3 years down the road I am yet to have another outbreak down below and have been lucky enough not to have ever had a single blister down there either. For me it was just discomfort in peeing and some unusual discharge which I got a swab test for which came back as herpes. So that just goes to show its not always what you think it is and how easy it can be to not realise you have it. Only around 20% of people actually show bad symptoms.

Some people can go years and be completely unaware because they have a strong immune system.

Also handy hint turmeric is an amazing supplement in terms of helping your immune system as it has high anti viral properties. A quick google search will tell you all you need to know on that one.

Hopefully it all comes back negative and you'll be fine. However, if it doesn't; please just know its not as scary as it seems, just heavily stigmatised by people who don't know enough about it. The 'incurable' side of things is what scares people. But it isn't going to mess up your insides or cause any long term damage. Its literally just a virus and either one of you could have had it for a while and be none the wiser.

[906breez]

Literally 80% of Americans has type 1 herpes virus and it can go undetected for years. You could’ve got it from just kissing somebody in the past & then having oral sex. It sheds easily.

[Jayzinc12 in reply to 906breez]

I’m in England and it would be type 2, my boyfriend doesn’t get cold sores or anything

[906breez in reply to Jayzinc12]

I’m saying that herpes virus 1 is cold sores and if there’s any oral sex involved it can give you gential herpes. Hopefully everything comes out ok. But if you’ve been with him for a long time. He should be understanding. If he isn’t then he isn’t the one for you. His immune system can be good just like the other reply says & he might not have symptoms.

I’d start with telling him that you had a bump & you’re not really sure what it is yet. But your going to get checked.