So I had unprotected sex with this guy as a drunken mistake and two months later he says he has herpes. I then talked to another previous partner about it and we both went to our own doctors.
Both independent doctors said as we have not experienced any symptoms it's very unlikely that we have it. But I am almost certain I gave the other guy herpes as he hadn't had sex with anyone except me in a long time. My doctor suggested that as he gets cold sores he was likely to infect himself. And that I shouldn't worry.
But I can't help feeling that I'm diseased in some way. And that I'm unattractive and boys won't ever find me attractive. And even though im not diagnosed with herpes I feel that morally I need to tell any future partners about this situation. I'm having trouble eating and sleeping because I'm so stress.
My biggest concern is that if I had it and only a very mild outbreak then how am I supposed to notice the signs? I have been continually checking my area and freak out when I see even a red mark. I just don't know what to do.