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[Stayingsane]

This website with the views, comments, questions, etc I found helpful as it reminded me that I am not the only one who has a loved one who is unique. Its hard sometimes to cope but knowing that I am not the only wife who is going through this helps the pain, the hurt and stress that goes with loving someone who is not diagnosed with Aspergers. My husband is finally opening up to me and letting me into his world but its a very slow process. I look for all the positive cases of people who have been diagnosed as asperges and are in the limelight whether its a sport person, someone famous, to show my husband its not the end of the world. We are all different but someone of us are very unique and once accepting that its the first step.

[tezzer]

People you would have heard of with AS Hans Christian Andersen or simply H.C. Andersen

(April 2, 1805 – August 4, 1875)

was a Danish author and poet, most famous for his fairy tales. Among his best-known stories "The Snow Queen", "The Little Mermaid", "The Emperor's New Clothes" and "The Ugly Duckling". During Andersen's lifetime he was feted by royalty and acclaimed as having brought joy to children across Europe. His fairy tales have been translated into well over a hundred languages and continue to be published in "millions of copies all over the world".Here's a bit of fun with fictional people who show some signs of Asperger Syndrome

Basil Fawlty (played by John Cleese in Faulty Towers)

Mr Bean (played by Rowan Atkinson)

Mr Spock (played by Leonard Nimoy in Star Trek)

Data (played by Brett Spiner in Star Trek the Next Generation)

Reginald Barclay (played by Dwight Schultz in Star Trek the Next Generation)

Andrew Martin (the Robot played by Robin Williams in Bicentennial Man)

William Henry Gates III KBE

(born 28 October 1955)

is an American entrepreneur and chairman of Microsoft, the worldwide leader in software, services and solutions that help people and businesses realize their full potential. Microsoft had revenues of US$51.12 billion for the fiscal year ending June 2007, and employs more than 78,000 people in 105 countries and regions.

Michael Edward Palin, CBE

(born 5 May 1943)

Sir Isaac Newton FRS

(4 January 1643 – 31 March 1727)

Jane Austen

(16 December 1775 – 18 July 1817)

Woody Allen

(December 1, 1935)

The follow people you may or may not Know but all are very important regarding Asperger Syndrome

Hans Aspergers

(February 18, 1906 - October 21, 1980)

was an Austrian pediatrician, after whom Asperger syndrome (AS) was named. He wrote over 300 publications, mostly concerning autism in children. The list goes on ...............

[Stayingsane in reply to tezzer]

Thanks did not know of these

[nssa]

I was diagnosed 8 months ago at 38 years old and female. My life has not changed at all through diagnosis except for the fact that it may make it easier for other people to understand my difference. I have worked hard all my life to hide my true self and to understand other people. I am a Science teacher and my hero Albert Einstein was suspected of having Aspergers, although diagnosis was long after his time. I do not believe Aspergers is a disease or even a syndrome, simply a different but perfectly able and functional brain. Get your husband to google "neurodivrsity" A lot of us feel this way, we do not feel like we need to be fixed because we are not broken. Diagnosis feels a bit difficult but even the medical community have strong advocates for this "neurodiversity"argument.

Also remember that your husband is doubtless going to go through some emotional ups and downs, give him space and quiet to do this but let him know you are there none the less. I have felt overwhelmed by people at times of great stress and deal better on my own initially-something my family hate and do not really understand but they kindly accept.