Asperger's

[HlW-56cheeseyu]

I'm 47 and have Asperger's syndrome. I feel my main problem is I'm unable to build relationships with family or anyone. Any time I'm making contact with people they seem uncomfortable or I'm too over exuberant. I don't know what to do.?

[Mybestfriends]

I can only think of ideas, as my Son (35yrs old) that maybe you could Stim before visiting family or something, that uses your energy a bit first, could you go to Cinema or Music or Art venue, Swimming or Bowling, with a Family member or friend. I'm thinking that if your doing something together, rather than, sitting type visit or Cafe. You can then move freely & hopefully enjoy time together. I maybe on the wrong track of thought, sorry if I am.

[Starlet7 in reply to Mybestfriends]

Thank you for this suggestion, I am going to give it a go! 🙂

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I find time spent outdoors with people for joint activities is more comfortable than for events indoors.

When everyone is outside; there seems to be greater expectation and acceptance that people will move around and be exuberant.

[LittleRedSquirrel]

I can relate to this, since my autism diagnosis in 2022 in my late 40s, I’ve come to realise how awkward I am around others, and especially with friendships. I have a few close friends, who I might speak to a few times a week via messages apps, some I might go months without speaking to them. What I can’t stand is people who force themselves onto my life, assuming I want to be friends, and then overwhelm me with messages on a daily basis, I have someone in my life now like this and it is so overbearing, I want to tell them, our friendship is over, but don’t want to be cruel.