I’m being emotionally abused by a narcissist who is making me feel like I need to slip back into psychosis 3 weeks after birth

[Granolalover7777]

Am I crazy? He stole the kids birthday money and swears he used it to put petrol in the car to run errands while I was in the hospital giving birth. He told me he would leave me during this delicate phase fully well knowing that that would make me feel so distressed that I may kill myself . Turns out he was bluffing and just wanted to see me writhing in pain as usual but he actually has nowhere to go.

He blames me and makes me think I’m crazy. I’ve had pp with last baby and I’m trying everything not to this time. Times like this I wish the pain would go away

[Jenny_at_APP Partner]

Hello Granolalover7777

I’m so very sorry that you’re going through this, it sounds like a really difficult and upsetting situation.

I’m sorry you experienced PP with your last baby and have this additional stress and worry to cope with at this vulnerable time.

Please do reach out for help and support, especially if you feel that you and/or your children aren’t safe.

Can you confide in the healthcare professionals that are supporting you, about how the actions of your partner are making you feel?

There are a lot of support organisations out there for all kinds of abuse so please know you’re not alone and there are people you can talk to and who can help you access appropriate support.

Mind has a number of resources and contacts on their website here: mind.org.uk/information-sup...

Refuge offers support, information and advocacy - refuge.org.uk/

Please do keep yourself safe, don't hesitate to call for help if you feel in danger.

Sending you very best wishes,

Jenny x

[Granolalover7777 in reply to Jenny_at_APP]

Thanks I feel I need a social worker for me. They have referred me to cas because they think the children need a social worker . I think 2 would be ideal but I really need an advocate right now because people may feel I’m just experiencing psychosis again but truth is I feel I need to speak out now when I am well. It’s like who would ever believe a ‘crazy’ person is being abused?

[Jenny_at_APP Partner in reply to Granolalover7777]

Hi Granolalover7777

Do you have a friend or family member you feel could help advocate for you? If not, do speak to those supporting you about this. Try to be as open and honest as you can about how you're feeling and what you're experiencing - they need to safeguard you and your family and be careful not to dismiss any concerns you raise. It is important too that you get any support you need at this vulnerable time.

There is also information on the Mind website about advocacy that might be useful: mind.org.uk/information-sup...

Best wishes,

Jenny x