LouLouB1

[Naomi_at_app]

Hi all - it's Naomi from APP here. This wonderful community have been supporting LouLouB1 since her wife experienced PP two years ago.

I know many of us have ridden the storms of depression and relapse in the early years of our recovery, and wanted to copy the latest update for any members who don't have access to the longer thread going back to 2021.

Please do feel free to share your support - especially if you have experience of navigating your own relapses/hospital admissions, or coping as a partner through these very hard times.

Naomi x

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LouLouB1 profile imageLouLouB1

1 day ago

Thank you everyone as always ❤️Sorry for radio silence, I'm still struggling here. Still no improvement which I'm finding so hard 😪 my wife is having a MHA assessment today im certain she'll be put on a section 3 which she really doesn't want but it is needed at the moment 😢

My friend has come to stay for a few nights which is lovely of him although my daughter is constantly excited having someone else here so things feel slightly harder to manage, it is nice to have adult company though, we took B to the fair last night and she was in her element, tinged with sadness for me that my wife wasn't there.

I contacted my work therapy service on Monday, after a 45 minute consultation they basically said my needs were too complex for them and that I needed long term therapy which they couldn't offer so that hasn't helped and I can't afford to seek private therapy at the moment 😢.

So all feeling rather bleak still but I'm pushing through the days and trying to hold onto hope.

Thanks again all for thinking of us ❤️

[MotherOfBears]

Thank you LouLouB1 for posting here. I wasn’t on the forum for the start of your posts, I had PP just last summer. As I am on my own slow journey to recovery it is good to read other’s experience, so thank you for posting. Hope things start to improve for you soon.

[Arabella-]

Hi Naomi

Wow that’s tricky ☹️

So your next step is to ask your work therapist to put it in an email to you, then email it to your GP. I would ask for immediate access to a psychologist. Give them a week and see what happens. If they do not help, then email your local MP explaining that you need urgent access to mental health support asap. Remember, you need to be strong for your child as well as your own self.

You need to prioritise fun things right now - simple pleasures like having a bath, watching a film with your baby, and going out for tea and coffee. Going to play groups. You have to look after your mental health for your own sake, and your child. Then, if there is enough energy, your wife.

Your wife will get better, you need to focus on keeping your own life in order and providing your child with a stable home.

There are things that can help: phoning the duty worker of your local mental health team if you need a boost. Asking for an assessment if you are suicidal.

I had PP after my first child 6 years ago. I recovered and went on to have two more children with no further PP. It’s fully possible to recover - so it’s time to focus on you. You’ve been through so much.

Looking forward to hearing your thoughts!

Much love xx

[LouLouB1]

Thanks Naomi ❤️

Mother of bears - thank you sending love and light for your recovery ❤️

Arabella - thank you for your words of encouragement 🙏 I had a call from my boss yesterday to said she'd done some research and we can access private therapy through work if needed so I've been referred for that, hopefully it'll help.

And I know you're totally right about having to prioritise myself and my daughter at the moment, I'm trying to but its tough 😔 we have a weekend of play dates planned so hopefully that will keep us busy and we'll have some fun along the way.

Thanks again ❤️