Hi, we welcomed our newest grandchild on Dec 13, 2015. Jack is a wonderful blessing to our family! Very shortly after his birth (emergency c-section), his mom just got hit with a ton of setbacks. Abdominal wall infection, bad reaction to pain meds, add in the hormonal changes and she got PPP. We had 24/7 care for her at home before she was willing to go into the psyche ward. She spent 13 days there, got the meds she needed, and has been home for 8 days.
There are 2 stepdaughters in the home, most of the time they are spending it with me so as to not overwhelm the new mom. She is on 3 different meds, sees a psychiatrist, psychologist, g.p., social worker, and has an RN coming to the house for a "healthy baby" program thru the county. So the care plan is set in place. We have a small, but close family support circle set up, my daughter and bf are living with them since she can't be alone w/the baby due to the meds and their side effects. My husband and I are in and out of the house as well. Her parents are coming when they can due to work schedules and long distance.
I guess I need some guidance as to how best to help her. She's still very fragile, still has the off the wall thoughts (paranoia, embarrassment, feels everyone is angry with her (nope!!). We are identifying her "triggers" such as tv, loud noises, too many people in the same room, etc., and trying to keep the house as calm as we can. There is a lot of support, love, caring, concern, etc. She's had a couple of bad days in a row. I know this is going to take time, but even though she's getting the help she needs from the medical community, the family is left hanging. We're not sure how best to help her.
I've done some reading on PPP, and can say we're doing pretty good considering we really don't know what we're doing.
She seems to be at her best when the girls are there with her. I had hoped to work the girls back into the home gradually, but it's almost like when they're around, she doesn't have the time to allow the negative thoughts to settle into her too deep. I've observed her and she's very good with the girls, a bit more subdued (probably med related), but she's on top of their schedules (meals, baths, school, homework) and the girls are very good with her as well. I agreed to let the girls go home tonight but am reserving the right to bring them back here since I am concerned about her mental health and not getting her too overwhelmed.
How important is it that she takes her meds at the same time, every day? It seems that she is delaying taking them the last few days saying, "She'll take the later." Is it a coincidence that she's had 2 bad days at this same time? We believe she is taking them, but we may need to monitor her closer to make sure.
She's very hard on herself during this time, taking blame, where there is no blame to be taken. This is an illness, it happened to her. She did not choose this! She gets angry with herself for not being able to "snap out of it". We assure her every time she gets on this kick that she is strong, she is fighting to beat this illness, that she will get better, but she has to be more patient with herself and allow the meds and doctors to all do their jobs.
This girl is so important to us!! We couldn't have picked a better wife for our son. She is just so wonderful in every aspect. She just completes our entire family. It breaks our hearts to see her this way.
For those of you that have struggled with this illness, do you have any tips, tricks, advice for us? How much stimuli is too much? How much is not enough? She has trouble sitting still for too long, she wants to clean her entire house when the girls aren't there. Anxiety? She is on lorazapam (sp?) for anxiety but only takes it "as needed". I know she'd like to skip it entirely, but am not sure that's a good idea this soon out of the hospital.
So many questions, I could ramble on forever. We just want our girl back. TIA