My mum had postnatal depression with me in 1998 and postpartum psychosis with my sister in 2002. She hid it from midwives and medical professionals as long as possible as she didn’t want my sister or I to be taken by social services. She eventually got help but was not sectioned.
My midwife is ADAMANT that my mother would have been sectioned but speaking to my mum she said as she had a good support network at home from my dad and her mum; she stayed at home but sectioning was considered.
I am 22 years old , 9 weeks pregnant and frightened to death this is going to happen to me. Speaking to my partner and explaining this can run in families (my mums mum had this too) his first response was along the lines of “well who is going to look after our child because I’ll be at work” and “I don’t want our child to be taken by social services”. This makes me feel terrible and honestly make me feel like crying. He’s asked me before when I’ve been crying or upset because of hormones and symptoms how I’m going to cope with this baby. I feel guilty already for being pregnant despite the fact it was all planned. I don’t think he understands.
I’m not oblivious to mental health. I’ve had low mood and anxiety in the past. I’m a paramedic by trade so no stranger to mental health crisis. But equally I’m so scared and anxious for myself, partner and baby.
I’d love advice and support from people who’ve had this run through their families as well, thought they’d get it but haven’t and people who have had it but beaten it.
Thanks so much