Last appointment with perinatal team

[Becciandbump]

I was discharged from the perinatal team today. I don’t know why but I sobbed my heart out in my last appointment I think mainly trying to get everything off my chest because I’ll never see him again. My psychiatrist was lovely I actually forst met him in 2014 for preconceptual counselling and two pregnancies later he is just such a comfort to me and I will miss our chats. Came home and rang my best friend in tears saying who am I going to ring now and she said ‘me’ anytime this is a good thing. She told me she will listen to me cry and tell me when I’m being a plonker with my health anxiety worries which is what she said today when I told her I’d convinced myself today that I might die! I came off the phone feeling a lot better after speaking to her and realised that half of my problem was I was constantly ringing my cpn when I was anxious but actually a good chat with my friend was just what I needed. I think I’m going to be okay now.

But then I realised after all the crying like an idiot that I hopefully will see him again because I still think I’d like a 3rd baby which he knows and he said I’ll probably see you soon but it was just weird because the last time I was discharged from him I only had a break of 3 months not seeing him because I was pregnant again and I know that I’m not planning a pregnancy for a little while so it felt like farewell!

Sorry that was long and rambley it’s just a wierd feeling to be discharged

[Lilybeth Volunteer]

Hello Becciandbump

So emotional for you to be discharged, probably because you have been through so much to be in a much better place now.

What a true best friend you have, much like the one in the story you posted about recently.

I think crying is a good stress release and I hope you feel better for it Wishing you all the best with your family ..... take care.

[Ellie_at_APP Partner]

HI Becciandbump

I'm not surprised you're feeling emotional... they sound like they have been amazing and given you so much support when you really needed it... it's a big thing and can be quite daunting I think, when support ends - a milestone and an achievement too. I'm so glad that you found talking with your friend really helpful.

Do take care, as you know we're all here for you whenever you need to chat XX

[Teresa_K_S Volunteer]

Hi Becciandbump,

Its totally understandable that you feel this way. It sounds like you have had the most wonderful support so far. I reacted the same way with lots of crying and panicky feelings when I was discharged by my psychiatrist from the community mental health team. I had been seen 3 times a year for 20 years since my PP and subsequent bipolar. You can imagine my shock when they said they were discharging me. I was so upset they agreed to keep me on the books and see me for an extra 6 months to allow me to get used to the idea.

It feels like you have had your safety net whipped out from underneath you and it's natural that you should feel quite alarmed. These feelings will pass though as you grow in confidence. I'm sure you will be just fine and it sounds like you have a lovely supportive friend. Wishing you all the best in this next brave stage

T x

[Pikorua Volunteer]

Hello Becciandbump,

yes, it is like a comfort blanket when you trust somebody and you can talk to. Feeling understood and somebody is actually listening. It feels good.

I am so pleased that you have a wonderful friend you feel at ease with.

In my case I found it extremely difficult to let go of my care coordinator. I've built a relationship with this professional and realised that I was emotionally attached. In a way she helped me to move on and get a second opinion in order to manage life differently.

I am still in contact from time to time with my former care-coordinator. Relationships in my opinion come and go, there are mile stones in our life's, where we just know intuitively we've got to move on.

My social contacts have developed, despite my anxious nature. My choices of friends and family members are selective and a contribution to the quality of my life with my big and little man...if energy is drawn out too much I usually step back.

Sending you love and kindness.