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Can postpartum psychosis really take your life away?

How do you explain to people after you've done some outrageous things and how do you come back from it all...loss of confidence being the worst and no self esteem as I feel branded the crazy one now For the rest of my life...no job due to all of above.feeling very low today guys ...sorry!

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Hello Beckles30

So sorry to hear you're struggling today which is understandable from what you are going through. Recovery is very up and down. I think when you reflect about what happened during the psychosis it's very hard to believe you were that person and did unthinkable things. That's how it was for me anyway.

As hard as it is to believe right now, you will come back from it all. I was a shell of my former self for ages. Although I did nothing wrong, in a way I think I had to forgive myself. Try to turn your thoughts around and accept that you have been to the lowest point but have had the courage to fight for the sake of your daughter.

As you slowly rebuild your confidence perhaps you might feel like getting back into work but don't put pressure on yourself. I had very little confidence about socialising and returning to work. I found that going through an agency to do temporary work was a good stepping stone for me. I was able to choose hours to suit and eventually was offered permanent employment which boosted my confidence and socialising skills over time.

You have so many things on your plate so try not to judge yourself. In time your thoughts about being 'crazy' will fade to be replaced by feeling proud of how much you have done since. We're unique Beckles ..... having been to hell and back and still standing!

I hope you've been able to confide in your mum for comfort today as you're feeling so low. Be very gentle with yourself and take good care. Sending you a hug :)

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Sending lots of love Beckles xx I know you don’t feel like it right now - but trust me you are an absolute Wonder Woman. You are NOT the crazy one. You have survived a horrendous illness and come out the other side, in the face of a whole bunch of other cr*p too.

We are all here for you, whatever you need - when you don’t believe in yourself we believe in you for you xx

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Hi Beckles30

I’m sorry to hear things are so hard at the moment. Please try to remember this is not your fault! The feelings you describe are absolutely natural. I honestly think there is no explaining some of it but I too remember trying to rationalise it.

I know when I had pp, 8 years ago now, in many ways the hardest bit was not the Psychosis and the “crazy stuff” but the long recovery afterwards and feeling like I’d been shattered into a million tiny pieces and I had no idea how and where to start piecing it all back together. Back to being “me” again, as a person, friend, Mum, everything really.

My confidence too was absolutely shot. I was like a shell of a person looking back, getting through the days and weeks as best I could and feeling like it was all a massive struggle. But I did get through it and whilst things are hard and I know this is especially true for you, please believe that you can get through this.

Keep talking to us here if it helps and do whatever you feel you can and want to. I know it sounds easy, and I know it’s not, but you can do it. Try to be kind to yourself where you can. For me it was tiny things which then grew and those pieces did come back together.

Thinking of you, xx

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Thank you all for your kindness and support through this...got 2 buses to see a friend, trying so hard to keep myself busy and around others. Xx

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Lilybeth your so right about the forgiving yourself bit....I feel like I've done so much wrong when really I've just been struck down by an illness 😞

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That's right isn't it Beckles ..... we might have crossed a line or two without knowing it but PP is so controlling that we had no choice and it wasn't our fault. You didn't do anything wrong and like all of us were struck down by what is such an awful illness. So over time when I've reflected on my 'crazy days' I know better now that it wasn't 'me'.

You are so resilient when you consider the treatment you have gone through to get your mental health back on track!

So glad that you went to such lengths at this busy time of year to get buses to see your friend. It's always good to meet for a chat and catch up isn't it? Keeping busy is a good way to keep your negative thoughts at bay. Hopefully you will begin to realise, as I did, that if we were in our 'right minds' there's no way we would have done what we did.

I think it's time to forgive yourself Beckles and be proud that in spite of being dragged through the hedge by PP you stood up and have fought to be well again. Your confidence will return and you will begin to feel much better about yourself even though you are coping with so much at the moment.

Be good to yourself and please keep 'talking' here if it helps. :) It's always good to hear from you.

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Hi Beckles30

Sorry to hear you’re feeling low today. I agree with you about the illness robbing us of our confidence and self esteem, I also felt guilty, ashamed, lonely and isolated and could not talk about it for years.

I can assure you however, life does get easier but it takes time. Just take one day at a time you will gradually pick up the pieces and will feel strong again.

Anyway, you have many caring people to talk to on this forum who are here to help you through. My very best wishes to you. Vee xx

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Thank you Vee that's very comforting to hear, just nice to hear reassuring words from people who been where I am and know it slowly gets easier. Xx

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Thank you all...talking to everyone keeps me going and continuing to fight this devastating illness!

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Hello Beckles30

This is a great place to talk ..... you're so strong to keep fighting and you will be well again.

Take good care. We are always here to listen.

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Thank you lilybeth x

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You're very welcome Beckles. I hope you have been ok today. x

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How did your day go Beckles? Do DM me if you want to xx Wishing you and your family a very merry Christmas xx

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Hello Beckles30

Thinking of you and hope you're ok.

Take care. xx

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Hey Lilybeth

Thank you for thinking of me....I'm okay, a bit low since coming home from seeing my daughter and just get so frustrated about my lack of confidence....trying everything to get it back but it's a very slow process! How was your Christmas? I hope you had a good couple of days xx

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Hello Beckles

Thanks for taking the time to reply. I imagine it's understandable to feel low after seeing your daughter and coming home. Try not to be hard on yourself ..... you have been coping with so much and it takes time to rebuild confidence but you will do it. Taking two buses to see your friend recently took a lot of confidence, so you're getting there :)

I had a good Christmas, thanks for asking ..... there was even snow!! Take care and keep in touch as we are all behind you. xx

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Hello Beckles,

the illness causes like a huge grey curtain and one can not see through it, because hallucination, fears and anxieties are taking over. I was swept under a huge cloud, when in hospital. However, the medication was essential to recover from PPP.

My path was long and winding and my partner had to look after me full time. As you mentioned loosing confidence and being unable to recognise oneself was a huge personal struggle for me. Eventually I was re-discovering and re-establishing lost skills through group therapy.

You have experienced so much, but from your notes I can establish that you are a great fighter, too. I am absolutely amazed about you taking two buses. Well done!

We are here for you and thinking of you.

x

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Hello Beckles30

Thinking of you and hope you find lots of strength and support for next week.

Take good care of yourself and remember how much courage you have had to come so far :)

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Hello Beckles30

I'll be thinking of you tomorrow and hope you have support around you. Just remember what a great mum you are.

Take very good care of yourself at such a challenging time ....try to tap into your inner strength. Sending you a hug :)

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Wishing you well, Beckles 30.

x

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Hello Beckles30

I hope you have had a good weekend.

Take care .... we are all here for you.

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How are you Beckles30? We are thinking of you.

Wishing you well. x

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Hello Beckles30

Thinking of you today and hope you are ok.

Take care :)

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Hi Lilybeth....sorry I’ve been so quiet lately...right now I’m going through mediation and court battle to get more access/contact with my daughter. I had to have supervised access with dads family for months which I found hard...finally got access supervised for 3 hrs without any family in a contact Centre which went well....waiting for next step now I have jumped through the hoops! It’s a very tough and difficult time but slowly I am finally seeing some progress with my contact.

Xxx

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Hi Beckles30

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply .... please don't apologise as it's only if and when you feel like it :)

It must have been very tough jumping through all the hoops to get to where you are now. How lovely that you had access to your daughter .... such a special time for you both. I'm really pleased things are slowly moving forward with your contact. Never forget what a great mum you are, having so much courage to battle on for the love of your daughter.

Take really good care of yourself as you must have been under so much stress lately. We are all beside you with our support.

Xxx

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Thank you so much for your support xxx

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We're here for you xxx

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Hi Beckles30,

I can't even imagine what you are going through but I'm glad you are getting to spend some time with your daughter. You are definitely a strong woman and the fact you are jumping through so many hoops shows how dedicated you are to your daughter.

Look after yourself. Xx

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Hello Beckles30

I hope you are having a good weekend ....... thinking of you. Take care. xxx

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Hi Beckles30

Wishing you hours of sunshine today :)

Take care. xx

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Thank you! 😊

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Me, too! Thinking of you Beckles30.

Do you have kind people around you and some sort of support network? It is such a difficult road...remember you are not on your own...

Much love,

x

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Thinking of you Beckles30, we are all rooting for you :) xx

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Thank you Jasa & Hannah 😊 xxx

Finally saw my daughter for 6hrs unsupervised yesterday which was so nice! I’m still in the middle of mediation and court process but things seem to be slowly progressing! I still find it extremely hard going through all this heartache and handover at the contact Centre made me feel like a criminal but I know I’m better so just gotta keep going and fight for my daughter!

I’m seeing my daughter again on Tuesday for another 6hrs on IOW unsupervised 😊 looking forward to that and just keeping her mind the whole time to keep me pushing myself forwards and looking at the positives!

Thank you guys for all your support and kindness! Xxx

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Hello Becles30

Wow! So happy for you both :) It's good to hear that you are so positive now and feeling better.

I think keeping your daughter as your focus will help you cope with all the formalities and give you strength, even though it must be heartbreaking for you at times. It might be slow progress jumping through all the hoops but it's lovely that you can look forward to being together again on Tuesday.

We're all with you ..... take good care. Xxx

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Hello Beckles30

Thinking of you ........ wishing you a very happy time today with your daughter :) :)

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Asking myself the same question today and more....Can PP take your life and your child away?!

Not been with my daughter now for 10 months and words cannot describe the pain and emptiness I feel...I’m trying so hard to be strong to fight all this but sometimes there still seems to be no light at the end of this dark tunnel....I just want to be back with my daughter! Why is this justice system like it is....I’ve done nothing wrong yet my daughters father is always holding all the cards and now stopped contact altogether after I had a very positive 6hrs unsupervised....in tears right now because this just all seems so wrong! I just want to be a mum again....why does this illness take that all away from me?....I’m so much better now but still no daughter!

Sorry just having a bad day and needed to get it off my chest!

Still fighting hard but it’s two steps forward 4 steps back!

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Hello Beckles30

So sorry to hear you're having a bad day but it's good to get it off your chest. It does seem so unfair that you haven't seen your daughter in so long and I can't imagine how painful that must be for you.

If you can, try to hold on, as going through mediation and the court process can't be easy but you have done everything right so there is hope. You have come so far and it has taken a great deal of courage and fighting spirit. There must be some sort of court procedure that your daughter's father has to follow ..... he can't hold all the cards as you are, and always will be, her mommy.

Is your mum with you for support? It must be so hard but try to lean on the support around you as well as here on the forum. This has been a bad day for you but hopefully after a good night's sleep you will feel more positive.

Take good care of yourself ........ thinking of you and sending a hug :) xx

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Thank you Lilybeth...I have mediation again next Friday and may hopefully get to see my daughter again after that....if not I will hope that the court hearing will be sooner! I’m on my own today but have friends at the end of the phone...thank you so much for taking the time to reply, your kind words & support is much appreciated! Xxx

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Hello Beckles

Sorry for late reply .... I had an internet problem :(

I really hope you will be able to find a way forward in mediation next Friday and see your daughter after that. It's good that you have friends at the end of the phone to support you when needed and we are always here, virtually, too.

Please never hesitate to get things off your chest here as it must be very stressful for you. You have been dignified and amazing in your fight for access to your daughter and we are all here to listen anytime you would like to talk.

Thinking of you ...... take really good care of yourself. We are all with you 100% :) Xxx

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Hello Beckles30

Thinking of you and hope you are ok. Take care. Xxx

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Hello Beckles30

Just wondering if the mediation meeting went ahead on Friday? I hope you are ok and have support around you. We are here for you. Sending you a hug :) Xxx

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Hello Beckles30,

we are thinking of you. Wishing you well.

:-)

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Hi Jasa and Lilybeth....thank you so much for thinking of me! 😊Mediation on fri was very hard but went okay...contact is supposed to recommence this Saturday but I have a horrible feeling it will not go ahead as there’s been a lot of back tracking happening at the moment....I am still attending court on July 11th as progress is extremely slow...had 3 mediation sessions and only seen my daughter once on my own and not seen her for past 4 weeks!...still trying to stay strong and determined to get the shared contact order I deserve!

Xxx

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Hello Beckles30

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply. I really hope contact will go ahead on Saturday. It must be very hard for you but please hold onto the hope that things should go your way and you will see your daughter soon. You have been very strong to cope with everything and deserve the shared contact you are fighting so hard for.

Take really good care of yourself .... we are all here to lean on :) Xxx

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Hello Beckles30

Thinking of you and really hope contact will resume today.

We are all wishing you a good day .... take care. :) Xxx

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I’ve got everything crossed for you Beckles, that contact restarts today and you have a lovely time together. Thinking of you xxx

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Hi all..thank you for your lovely messages,sadly contact has been stopped for a second time....so upset and frustrated! Xxx

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Hello Beckles

That must be heartbreaking for you. I'm really sorry and hope you have support around you and friends on the phone. It's not easy but try to stay positive although it's so unfair. You have been really strong ..... take very good care of yourself. Sending you a hug :) Xxx

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Hi Beckles

I’m so sorry to hear contact wasn’t restarted. I hope you’re ok and being well supported, as lilybeth says it’s so unfair. Stay strong, keep looking forward, we’re all here for you.

Jenny xx

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Hello Beckles30

I hope you have had a good weekend and are ok. Take care. xx

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Hello Beckles30

Thinking of you and hope you are ok. Take care. xx

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Hi Lilybeth!...thank you! How are you?

I am feeling very positive & happy today as I finally have my baby girl over night!...it’s been a year since her dad took her away! 😞 got court again on 29th Aug, I now have my daughter for weekend every fortnight until court.

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Hi Beckles30!

What a great update :) .... it must be such a relief that you can have your daughter for a weekend every fortnight. I'm so happy that you are feeling very positive and happy after such an uphill struggle.

I'm well, thank you, and your news has made my day! Take good care of yourself ... we are all here to support you. You're an amazing mum :)

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I’ve never had postpartum psychosis but have had psychosis on about 8 occasions in my life due to bipolar. I find it hard that people may think I’m crazy but friends that love you will still love you just the same. I have so many friends and colleagues at work I work in a professional job it is possible to recover from psychosis fully it just takes time. Funnily enough it’s those closest to me parents and sister that can’t let me move on everyone else treats me normally

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Hello Beckles30,

I am so extremely happy for you that you can have your baby girl every two weeks for a weekend.

It has been such a long term struggle, -

we are thinking of you,

look after yourself...

x

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Hi Beckles30

Thinking of you and hope you are well. Take care :) x

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Thank you Lilybeth, I’m just on my way to collect my daughter for weekend contact, take her back tomoz at 2pm.

Things have been difficult lately just because I miss my daughter so much and worry about the future and the outcome of the final hearing. Trying to stay strong and very plsd to be seeing my daughter again but I do find two weeks a long time to wait each time 😞

Thank you for thinking of me 😊

Xx

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Hi Beckles30

Thanks for taking time out of your busy day to reply on your way to collect your daughter.

I can't imagine how tough it must be for you to wait each time. You have been so strong. I know it's so difficult but try not to think too far ahead and enjoy these precious times together. I'm sure your daughter is looking forward to seeing her mummy again.

It's not easy but try not to be negative as your loving care and daughter's happiness with you must surely go a long way in any decision. I hope you can lean on the support around you when you are worried. Perhaps rachellea2007 who offered help under her thread "I got my boys back!" might offer some reassurance.

Stay strong and have a great weekend :) Take care. Xx

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Thank you Lilybeth yes I know your right i try to stay positive it’s just hard sometimes I have too much thinking time! It’s very lovely having my daughter overnight again! 😊 I did speak to Rachellea2007 the other day and it was really nice and very helpful too!

Xx

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How lovely to have your baby girl sleeping over :) She must be so settled and happy with you. It's been a big challenge but you have come through so much and should be very proud of yourself. I'm glad you have been in touch with Rachellea2007 and she was nice and helpful. Perhaps you could meet up with your friend for a chat next week?

In the meantime have a lovely time with your treasured daughter. We are always here to listen. Xx

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Hi Beckles30

Thinking of you. I hope you are ok with good support around until you have the joy of time with your daughter again. Take care Xx

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