Why do we have anxiety?

[lulu91]

I wonder if its cause I haven't achieved goals I want to achieve and I feel like im wasting time

[Binkynoo]

Hi everyone , it's late , it's me Binkynoo anyone relate to my crazy I get into bed , felt tired I lay down to go to sleep & feel really dizzy as of I'm scared to go to sleep it's wierd , a little secret I went to gp yesterday About a few pains etc , ended up with sleeping tablets zopolone I only took half one last nite gosh made me sleep !! but my symtoms Iv had for a few nights prior & not took pill

Hate taking tablets anyone else been on these or had a fear to sleep awake all night Binkynoo .

[Binkynoo]

Hi lulu, was it a personal goal ? You wanted to achieve? I think Anxiety is just unbelievable , laid awake in bed trying up relax thinking crazy things scared to go to sleep had to get my mum to stay over last nite even though Iv got my little boy & partner I don't like to worry him bless. Are you taking any meds for your anxirty or natural . I really wanna go natural. Binkynoo always around for a chat

[lulu91 in reply to Binkynoo]

Idk honestly I mean I do really well at work and stuff I just dont understand why I have anxiety and im all natural I will never take pills and dont worry im sure your mum LOVES being able to be around to help you no matter what it is ? And how different ive never been scared of sleeping if anything sleep for me is an escape from my anxiety but trust me I get my attacks bad I cant even go to dinner or a movie anymore ... and if this helps you feel better I moved my mum in cause I dont like being alone and im married and no one really minds

[Hidden]

I think it's because we aren't doing enough to control our thoughts, I think we need to totally change our self-talk and tell ourselves things like 'I refuse to be anxious today', 'I'm not going to let anxiety stop me from living my life any more', 'There is nothing wrong with me' etc. it might take months of saying things like this before we start noticing a higher level of confidence. I started listening to 'Feel the fear and do it anyway' check it out n youtube. It's an audio book. But yes I also think that when we don't go for our dreams and goals we become a door mat for anxiety too. So we do need to set targets even if they are small targets.

[lulu91 in reply to Hidden]

I completely agree thank you so much for sharing(:

[Hidden]

Hi Lulu,

We have to have some sort of anxiety, as we wouldn't function as human beings. If were facing danger, the fight of flight system kicks in, albeit there's isn't any animal creatures to run away from, we still need it to run away from any danger. Unfortunately when we suffer with anxiety the part of the brain doesn't shut off when the danger is over in humans, it tries to find an answer to why we are feeling like this, thus keeping the anxiety alive. I read that animals don't do this, when the danger is over, there brain doesn't over think.

Can you take a few steps, like getting ready to go to the cinema, arriving there, and maybe staying for awhile and sitting nearest the exit?

Maybe only having your mum to stay over on alternative nights?.

You say you work and have achieved, so praise yourself for the positives.

Do you have any hobbies, or exercise, as this is one of the best remedies to help with anxiety, I love swimming when I feel anxious, I am so relaxed after it.

I hope you feel less anxious soon. Eunice xx

[lulu91 in reply to Hidden]

Thx !!!!! (: helps a lot

[doozhi]

After years of suffering and searching, I've found that a lot of what contributed to my anxiety disorder (panic attacks, depression, mood swings, physical ailments) was repressed anger, bitterness, and trauma steming from my childhood. I lived in an abusive home, where my dad was the offender. You might've heard about the notion, "Every child desperately needs a father." I believe that. So to make a long story short, I hated my dad for a long time but was in denial about it for years. It manifested itself in different ways I believe, and depression and anxiety were 2 ways it showed its ugly face. Just recently I started to feel some very weird physical symptoms. It was like I had flu-like symptoms all the time. The doctor told me I wasn't physically sick but I felt very sick. So now, I'm starting to realize that maybe, maybe, I have become so overwhelmed by my depression and anxiety that it made me literally sick. And now I believe that I need to make amends with my dad and forgive him. Will this help me? It might. It certainly won't hurt me in any way to face him and forgive him. Me making amends with him could even help me progress forward in my strive to overcome depression/anxiety. In a nutshell, for me at least, and maybe countless other people, I believe anxiety comes a lot from suppressed emotion; reallife emotion and possibly even post-traumatic. And that suppressed feeling is trying to surface because its in a place where it doesn't belong; the human heart and soul. And the only way to alleviate some or all of the anxious feelings and symptoms associated with it, is to tackle the root problem of the hwaer and soul.

[lulu91 in reply to doozhi]

I agree but idk what my problem truely is

[Ella88]

Hi ! I think your somewhat right because I slowly started getting anxiety symptoms as I moved out of my parents to live my bf in a new city and I was starting to study for school but haven't done it yet and I set goals that I haven't done yet . So anxiety could be something that pushes us to do things we normally wouldn't do .