I am not good with having downtime. I don't know how I survived this winter. I have too much alone time, and do all the things I'm suppose to (volunteer, church, friends, etc.) to counteract letting it get to me.
Today, I had cataract surgery. I need to just stay still and do nothing. I am not good at resting.
Any recommendations for books or whatever to help with aloneness/loneliness? I need to learn to just live with it.
I hear you been a lone most of my life too. I know it will be tough with your eyes for a few days but you can do it. Can you get audio books where you are? They were a lifesaver when i was laid up after foot surgery. Let your friends and church know that you are going bonkers and would enjoy their company. The women i work with were angels i bet your friends will be too. Just keep in mind how great it will be to see well again. Its worth it.
Sorry you’re going through this. I hate when things slow down, it makes me so anxious. Couple things that help me - pull up a meditation on YouTube. Helps your brain get used to being “still”. I’m also “home bound” a lot lately (not by choice) and I love FaceTiming family and friends. I get to show them our new addition in the house (6 month old baby) and it helps with the loneliness. Also, I loved the book Stillness is the Key by Ryan Holiday. Tons of great examples of the benefits of embracing stillness. Best of luck on the journey!
dear RemiSue……. I had both eyes corrected under cataract surgery, if you wear an eye patch over your bad eye, you can still watch television…. But I found listening to my favourite music on YouTube more enjoyable.
It is said you need at least six weeks of rest to get clear vision, I know you now have a new member of the family to care for, but if you can wait eight weeks, all will become bright and colourful, I promise!
If you enjoy reading, see if your local library or record store has audio books to borrow.
One thing I would suggest is during your final two weeks indoors, wear sunglasses to protect you from bright overhead lights, or bright sunlight.
Seems like you had a busy social life, it’s time to call on your family and friend to do for you what you did for them.
I am 81 now, and my eyesight is better now than it was twenty years ago
RemiSue…..if you need your doctors advice, you will have bright clear vision to watch your little one grow up…… so my lovely.
Take care and stay safe.
Don(Veteran 250).
