I was raised in an emotionally abusive home and it led me to depression and several suicide attempts. For a long time I hated my family and resented them. I got myself out of depression even while still being abused by them. I had stopped school because of depression but I went back to finish my studies. I still live with them that's the worst part. I don't have a job yet and I still depend on them so I can't leave this place. They still abuse me, look down on me, insult me and say things behind my back. Depression made me stronger because now their abuse doesn't affect me like it used to. But I know this is not a healthy environment for me it's really toxic and unhealthy. I don't want to live like this. I think I deserve better.In our culture we usually depend on our parents till we graduate college, get a job and become financially independent enough to leave but I want to leave sooner. For years I have been saving up the money that my dad used to give me as allowance so I have a head start. I will graduate very soon and hopefully get a job but I want to start looking for online jobs to get some extra money while I'm still actively looking for a stable job. Writing is my passion so I'm looking for online writing jobs so I can save up some extra money.
I have decided to start planning for my escape. I am their punching bag and I do most of the domestic chores in the house while they do nothing so I know they would never want me to leave. That's why I'm planning on working hard, save as much money as possible, be able to stand on my own two feet financially, rent a place and leave without a trace. Leaving an emotionally abusive home is always the hardest. If you've ever been there and escaped I would appreciate your advice. Anyone from the community can offer support or advice. I would greatly appreciate it.
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Wow! I respect and admire you so much for being so adult and mature about leaving. You are doing completely the right things of course so kudos.
I left my emotion......was going to talk about more personal things but won't as just seen your post isn't locked to this community and could appear anywhere on the net even on social media.
So I will limit this to more generic information. Why not try writing for magazines so do some research into who is open for stories. You can also apply to do surveys as they are paid.
Or how about become a mystery shopper as lots of those can be done by phone. They pay too.
Thank you so much for your advice. It really helps to have support especially when you have no one else but yourself. I really love this community. Sending lots of love your way.💗💗💗💖💓
I compliment you on taking this decision, I've been struggling of making a leave from my household. I'm in between a rock and a hard place, I can either leave in a less economical state once I apply to a job, or make no risks and try to study and secure a diploma for a well waging job. For good measure I tried applying to jobs but I have been forced to resign jobs that have hired me due to my parents not wanting me to be using their car. I'm just hoping I can graduate this year.
If the abuse at your home is affecting you emotionally I recommend making plans on moving out without trying to complete your diploma. Make sure on covering all your bases before moving out, start taking notes of your belongings, looking for appartments near you, your IDs and health plans, etc. Your health is important and ignoring how you are being treated just for trying to live is not how you should be thinking of yourself.
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