Anyone want to chat?

[Teal33]

I’m feeling down. Just looking for some motivation and positivity to keep going. I’m getting ready to move next month ( which is a huge stressor itself) and I’m in the process of rehoming my dog. I have little motivation to get out of bed. My husband just doesn’t ‘get it’ and keeps saying it will be ok. But I’m not ok. Hoping to chat with someone who understands.

[gajh]

I can chat.

[Teal33 in reply to gajh]

Hi! How are you?

[gajh in reply to Teal33]

I am good. How long have you been struggling to get out of bed?

[Michael8072]

Hi Teal33

Moving is definitely stressful. I hope the move goes smoothly for you! Is there something about the move that has you feeling down?

[Teal33 in reply to Michael8072]

Hi Michael8072,

Thanks for replying. I don’t think it’s anything in particular about the move. It’s just a stressful situation altogether. There’s just so much to do…

How are you doing? Do you have anxiety/ depression? If so, how do you manage?

[Michael8072 in reply to Teal33]

Totally understand it’s definitely stressful.

Right now not doing the greatest. Do have anxiety and depression. I like to get outside and move in nature that helps me a lot. Walking and burning out the anxiety so my mind is focusing on me being tired and not all the usual thoughts swirling through my head that I wake up to.

Journaling helps me as well. Getting whatever is in my thoughts out and in the open so I’m not holding it in.

[Teal33 in reply to Michael8072]

I’m sorry to hear that you are not doing the greatest. I really appreciate your suggestions. I will try journaling as I do hold a lot of my thoughts to myself. If I can get myself out of bed perhaps I will go for a walk.

[Michael8072 in reply to Teal33]

Hi Teal33 How are you doing today?

[Teal33 in reply to Michael8072]

Thanks for checking in. It still a difficult day. I’m trying to be more positive but I think it’s going to take some time.

[Michael8072 in reply to Teal33]

Sending good thoughts. I’m glad you’re trying to be more positive, I am also working on that as well. One minute at a time one step at a time!

[Teal33]

it’s been about 3 days now. Do you have anxiety or depression? If so, how do you manage? Any tips?

[gajh in reply to Teal33]

That is good that it has only been 3 days. I have depression and anxiety. Being active on this site helps so much. I used to have a hard time getting out of bed. I am on this site on my computer so I have to get out of bed to use it. I started looking forward to coming on this site checking for messages and reading posts. It really has made a huge difference for me.

[Teal33 in reply to gajh]

That’s a great suggestion. I will use this community to help me.

[gajh in reply to Teal33]

Are you getting out of bed at all?

[Teal33 in reply to gajh]

No I’m not able to get out of bed. It’s been a really difficult week. I am trying to channel positive thoughts but the overwhelming ones are winning.

[Teal33]

Not really. Today I got out of bed to go to the washroom and get a drink of water. Other than that I’ve been in bed all day. No appetite, no motivation to do anything.

[gajh in reply to Teal33]

Did you already struggle with depression and/or anxiety before 3 days ago?

[Teal33 in reply to gajh]

Yes I’ve struggled with anxiety/ depression for a few years. I’m use to putting on a brave face in front of others. But this week I’ve really been struggling.

[gajh in reply to Teal33]

How are you doing today? Did you make it out of bed at all?

[Teal33]

Thanks for checking in. No I didn’t make it out of bed today. I tried to watch some movies on tv to occupy my mind.

[gajh in reply to Teal33]

Can you try getting out of bed and just moving out to the couch to watch tv in the other room?

[Teal33 in reply to gajh]

I wish I could… Just can’t get there

[gajh in reply to Teal33]

How about sitting in a chair in your bedroom instead of laying in bed?

[Teal33 in reply to gajh]

That’s an option but I love the coziness of my bed and curling up under the sheets.

[gajh in reply to Teal33]

Sometime it helps to take baby steps to get yourself out of bed. Of course it is more cozy in bed, but you don't want to stay there all the time. Get yourself to take little steps to get you back out. I really recommend you try sitting in a chair even if just for 5 minutes the first time. Just to take that very first step.

[Teal33 in reply to gajh]

Thanks! I’m going to take your advice and try later this afternoon. I will sit in my chair and watch t.v.

[gajh in reply to Teal33]

Fantastic! Please let me know how it goes. I look forward to hearing.

[Midori]

Hi Teal.

Yes, moving can be one of the biggest stressors going. I last moved almost 4 years ago, and it was the best thing I ever did! Great bungalow, perfect views!

We still aren't straight, but it doesn't matter, I'm not getting myself in a lather about it, I'm just taking the Hakuna Matata way, No worries, It will happen when it happens, The bungalow is paid for, the furnishings are temporary but do the job.

Cheers, Midori

[Teal33 in reply to Midori]

Thanks Midori! I am hoping once the move is done I will be really happy. It’s my dream house with a perfect kitchen and layout. So I’m looking forward to being in it.

[Barbloki]

I know exactly how you feel. I moved in March to a new area and I've been depressed ever since. I can't imagine having to give up my dog. I love her so much! How are you going to handle that? Are you moving far away so that you have to start over or are you staying in the same area?

[Teal33 in reply to Barbloki]

Hi Barbloki,

I’m moving to a new city. It’s not too far from where I am now. I am really not handling the rehoming of my dog. But she’s really aggressive and bites and I’m afraid of her. I’ve had several trainers, sent her away for a month to be trained ( she did get a little better) but she had regressed and now I’m out of options. I am hoping once I move it will be a fresh start. I just have to get there….

[Barbloki in reply to Teal33]

I'm sorry your dog has issues. Hopefully you can find a new home for her. I wish I had good advice about moving. Just the word "moving" gives me anxiety. I need stability in my life and I don't feel stable in this new area.