The moment …

[Shpammy]

The moment you realize that you don’t have one person to call and talk to. Not one.

[bIondethunder_28]

When my head starts to darken with painful thoughts like that, I try to find people to call on that doesn't include physical beings on this planet anymore. I'm not sure your religion, so please include that in your options, but I am not going to touch on that subject to be safe.

I call on the people I love who have passed away. I close my eyes and speak to them like they're right in front of me.

Other times, I separate a part of myself that is the strongest and I use that voice to speak to the rest of myself that is in pain in a way that I would speak to someone else who's suffering.

Whatever your inspiration may be, you're never alone. You can always message me!

[notanotter in reply to bIondethunder_28]

Wow, those are powerful ideas. It made me remember that I used to dream that my grandmother was with me, just watching and smiling and nodding in love and support. Sometimes I still have dreams like that. It's a similar idea.

[bIondethunder_28 in reply to notanotter]

That's beautiful <3 I believe you can put yourself back into a dreamstate through meditation and you could manifest her again. In any case, our memories (or their spirits, however you see it) are powerful.

[notanotter]

That sucks. I'm sorry.

Can you think of any way-back, older friends who might be receptive to a quick "thinking of you" or check-in?

I'm trying to get better myself at contacting people so that I don't keep losing friends through accidental neglect! (It's easy to do if you're kinda introverted and have depression.)

Right now I have one friend I'm afraid to contact because it's been months, and now it feels like A Thing that we haven't talked.

[Shpammy in reply to notanotter]

You hit the nail on the head. I called an old college roommate … and so I live to cry another day …

[samack]

I know just how it is. Friends I have are long distance and don't want to hear me when I'm in the dumps, which is always. Somedays I can talk over it but most times I can't. I wish I felt some energy or spirit with me, thats great if you can. You are not alone in this experience.

[JohnPB]

That sounds like a very lonely place. Being alone is one of my greatest fears. I have had difficulties making and keeping friends. I have a new friend that I met by sharing on HealthUnlocked. I encourage you to keep reaching out. You are not alone in how you feel.

[Lifelong-sufferer]

I’m brand new to this website and this is the first reply I’ve made. I’m in the same situation you are. The only person I can talk to is my therapist. It’s hard for me to make and keep friends because of my Anxiety Disorder and Depression. I don’t have family members I can talk to. Family members often don’t know how to or don’t want to deal with mental illness . My husband has dementia so I can’t talk with him. So you are not alone in how you feel. Maybe try journaling, you can get your thoughts and feelings out without anyone judging you.

[notanotter in reply to Lifelong-sufferer]

I wonder if there might be a local support group for people who care for others with dementia. It would be a ready made way to bond without pressure.

[LostInNJ]

I relate. I don’t have any friends and my mother and therapist are the only people I have to talk to. I’m new here but I just wanted you to know you’re not alone.

[pinkmint]

I'm so sorry, I understand. That's how I feel most of the time. My friends and family are too busy with their own lives to have time for me and there's no one person I can just call to talk things through when I'm feeling stressed or upset. I've been crying pretty much non-stop for the past two days so I don't have anything too helpful to say other than... just hang in there. You may feel like no one cares, but they do. It may not be in the way you want or need right now, but they do in their own way. Reaching out on here is a good first step, there seem to be a lot of supportive people. Maybe try more online stuff like this - I have a couple of friends who I pretty much exclusively communicate with online (although one of them I see every few months). It definitely helps, and it forces me to try to come up with some positive things since I don't want to be completely doom and gloom. I hope you're OK, I know it sucks.