Opposites attract..

I find it hard to get out of this depression and anxiety..even though it's been going on for years it doesn't seem to end and I feel whatever I do , is what keeps it going..I tell myself I'll succeed but i keep failing..I tell myself things will get getter but I'm getting worse..I tell myself I'll be back on my feet, but I'm lying down more..I tell my self I'm gonna be successful in a job, yet still jobless, I tell my self I'll be happy, I sink deeper into sadness...I have hope I'll be like this, and I'll be like that, but I've turned out the oppoaite..getting tired of hoping and getting nowhere..thinking it'll pass but it's still going on..im alive but dead inside..not sure if i made sense but I'm just trying to say that the more I try to be positive , the more negative I become ..everything turns out the opposite. Hope someone understands.. thanks for reading

[Browneyes921]

I’m so sorry you are struggling. You’re not alone.

[brokenankle75]

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. Are you prescribed medication and have a psych dr and counselor? I do and it’s a nightmare trying to find the meds that will work for you. I have taken soo many diff kinds of meds and wheni did find right ones they do help some. But I can relate to pretty much everything you said. It’s hard to stay positive when you keep getting hit backwards. I watch some people especially yoga instructors and they seem soo at peace (not saying they Are but that’s the persona I get). I find it helpful to listen to positive people especially when they’re going through hardships and they are still positive.Maybe you should find some podcasts like that because I’ve listen to some of those and they are inspirational. Another idea I have is Write down or journal things throughout your day of the little accomplishments that you’ve made so you can see that there is some positives even if they are small. So you can see it’s not all backwards. I’m sorry I’m just trying to think of ways to try to help you. Try and pick yourself up every day and brush your problems behind you and start your day fresh and new with a positive attitude and not let the things in the past interfere With the moment you’re in now. Someone would tell me all the time when I would start going into my past that the past is the past you can’t change it just live in the here and not. And after hearing that drilled into my head over and over it finally started clicking in my mind

[Catatvet05]

I can relate to this all over. Your not alone . Sending you hugs.

[Starrlight]

Hey there bro!To me, you are so amazing, just the way you are yet I know you don’t feel it and you are in pain and I feel for you. I pray you will be feeling amazing some day soon. Please don’t give up hope. You are such an awesome person who deserves all good things especially to plainly be happy.

You know it happens to me too, like I try to say good things to myself and to like myself and get to a different, better, place but the opposite happens and end up just talking more trash to myself the harder I try to be good. I hear ya it’s hard for sure.

[Starrlight]

You know I was thinking that iur brains are probably resistant to good at first because we’ve been feeling down for so long but if we keep trying I think the brain will eventually take in and use what we give it and things will start working. Let’s never give up.

[obetheavmb]

Hello,

I can totally relate to EVERYTHING you mentioned. It is hard to focus on the positive things you've accomplish when that little voice in your head telling you otherwise. You're not alone at all!

I hope you have a great day today! Full of happiness because you deserve to happy!

[gerg]

Yo,

You make plenty of sense. I try to challenge my self talk and find a new rational thought. If I try to be happy, I am taking a pretty big leap. I instead work at being content. I remove the extreme words like always or dead, and I find words that serve me better. Look for small wins, don’t group things together. Cut yourself some slack, some things just don’t matter.

[Agora1]

Hi ellinaki

What's happening? We can hope and wish and tell ourselves what we need to do or

what we want to do but....unless we believe that we can do it, it's not going to happen.

Getting started is the first step to take. Going into action speaks louder than words.

Our subconscious mind absorbs everything we think and do each day. If we sense doubts, our mind picks up on that and is already defeated.

This doesn't sound like you ellinaki but then again this has been quite a year.

I'm glad you are back on the site. It sounds like you need a little pep talk from the virtual family. You know we understand, now it's time to help you turn things around. xx