Frightened to go out

[Whiskers16]

My friend has asked me to go out tomorrow morning just for a short while, I really want to go but already working myself up over the thought of it.

[Jeff1943]

Accept your anxiety, do not fight it, fighting only causes tension and stress which makes anxiety worse because anxiety disorder feeds on stress. So let it come, you know in your heart it will not put you in harm's way, it is only stressed nerves playing games with your mind and imagination.

Agree to accept it for the time being, do not keep hoping it will suddenly disappear, that comes later.

So accept the bad feelings but do not add second fear to the flash of first fear if you can. Agree to co-exist with it (for a while).

Do what you fear and the death of fear is assured. No dangers await you outside. When your friend calls do not struggle to push yourself forward. Instead 'float' - imagine yourself being carried effortlessly along by an invisible force.

O.K., you will feel apprehensive but so what, put on a brave face, we are all good actors here, we know how to do that, don't we. You will feel anxious but feel your muscles relax as you walk specially your jaw muscle, imagine there is a muscle where your brain is and feel that relax too.

Rome wasn't built in a day and neither will your recovery. But remember these: Accept, Float and Let time pass and before long you will reclaim the great outdoors, of this there can be no doubt.

[Whiskers16 in reply to Jeff1943]

I know I might sound weak but I just couldn’t do it.This level of anxiety has been going on for 4 months plus and every day is getting worse and worse the meds don’t seem to be helping, I’m now on the third lot.

I’m not sure how much more I can take

[Whiskers16 in reply to Jeff1943]

Forget my last message my friend turned up and I forced myself to go.. was still really anxious but did it

[Tiggerakafidgity in reply to Whiskers16]

Woo boo well done whiskers.now lock that away in your brain for next time.its not the fact you can’t go out it’s the.I won’t go out.

What do you think will happen to you hey.youve a friend to hold your hand.

Not being harsh but plenty of ppl haven’t got any one to hold there hand.some times we have to force our selves to do things we don’t want to do.

Think of it as riding a bicycle,the more you ride the better and fitter you get right ?

Same with dealing with anxiety.

Meds only go far but the rest is up to you my friend.

Wish you all the best

T

[Whiskers16 in reply to Tiggerakafidgity]

Thank you, I know you’re right and I feel such a failure most of the time as I give up too easily.

[Jeff1943 in reply to Whiskers16]

Nice one, Whiskers. Next time it will be easier. Just remember to accept the bad feeling for the time being rather than wishing it away. Wishing it away makes it stay.

[Whiskers16 in reply to Jeff1943]

The just wish I could master this every morning I wake up with the worst anxiety and cannot get it out of my head

[Tiggerakafidgity in reply to Whiskers16]

Hey

Ever tried meditation?

I practiced it for about 10 yrs.

I got to the point that when I woke up I had my order of things to do but didn’t think omg it’s raining or wow it’s sunny.

I was in the moment that means you cannot and will not fear anything in the future.

If I were you,I would try get a structure going in the morning

When I was working

I would boil kettle,out toast on have shower brew the tea eat the toast while I drip dried drank tea while I got dressed and went to work.all in half hour with out rushing.

I would say,you need something to get up for.

Don’t order ya milk on line,don’t get it delivered.pop down shop in the morning get milk and paper.

Look I suffer from paranoid personality disorder and it’s taken me ten yrs to find the magic medicine but I still had to go to work imaging and believing there was some one in the back of the van getting ready to strangle or take me hostage.i wasn’t on meds then but the meds didn’t work brilliantly.

I bet you don’t throw up beside your bed while hiding in the corner

I bet you don’t have diarrhoea because your shittijg your self some ones gonna burst through front door and hurt me bad.take me hostage etc etc etc.

Some nights I woujd be up all night watching out being alert adrenaline through the roof.

If I can do it you can.

That’s just one thing out of 8 that I have to deal with 24/7.

An idea.

I used to get really anxious in the morning about absolutely nothing.

It was the meds I was on not combining togethor very well.

Now I’m as happy as a daisy in the sun shine.

So I’m here for you.

Remember build good habits.the more of a habit you do you will excel at it and it will be totally normal

Christ stand in the garden and just smell the air the sea if your near it smell the dew walk on the dew if you have a garden.

You’ve got so many options you can’t really say no now can you hey

I’m not being harsh.

I speak the truth and how it is

Good luck for tomorrow morning when you go down get a paper

T

[Agora1 in reply to Whiskers16]

Congratulations! You did it, Anxious or not, you went xx

(Take that anxiety) lol