Oi!
Allrity laddies, I am here to CLEAN. YA. THE. F. UP!
Write down all your greatest problems and fears and troubles, and let the Magic Weasel of Wholesome do its secret magic!
They will not bother you anymore! Rarr! This is spring cleaning of the bad!
Love that, quitter333.
That's great. Does he do windows?
He looks angry and ready to beat up someone with that duster. 🤣🤣
I’m requesting clean up on isle 5.
I want that attitude, lol
Do we get refunds if you don’t do ya job properly
You get a scolding look as in "Yea, no refunds, should have read the fine print in our policy".
But if you never know before you try.
Can he clean my house though?!
Actually after giving him a proper look.. not sure I want him in me house...
Just my garden will do thanks
For garden you will need the Shovel Owl. He is really bad at what he does tho'
Oh This is so much fun! 
Ok, I'll go :3
- in 2020 I fear that I will disappoint the people that like me (my girlfriend). She likes me for no reason and I feel I am not good enough. I will try to embrace support and work on being a better person.
- I fear that I take things too seriously and when they fail I again graze depression and my brain becomes a mess. But.. I have experienced it few times.. and I still have my wits.. and it seems that world is a lot more forgiving than it feels. Everyone wants and talks perfect, but perfect does not exist in nature. And it definitely does not exist in human life. It is just an idea, an axiom you move towards but can never touch.
- I fear that my parents are getting old. I want to provide them with surprises and life that is luxury at least now and then. But they say that they are great and that seeing their children doing good is the greatest value. I will respect their life-view and that they frankly do not need me to be happy. Instead work to make my own life better. If I am happy, I will be able to gift more happiness to others, than I could if I forced myself while unhappy.
- I fear I am growing apart from many friends, as we get older and have families and start meeting less. But .. then again when we meet we have fun as if we saw each-other just a day ago. It seems that friendships are there to stay, no matter what.
- I fear of wasting my life sometimes. Like I overwork a lot to catch some business opportunities and such. I should remember that instead of fearing losing time, I should actually embrace the quality time when it happens, after all one who constantly fear of living wrongly, may discover he has not lived at all.
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Also just this morning , it was chilly, -2C / 23F, usual morning.. but I saw morning sun glistering in my street. Felt so incredibly present and comfortable for no reason. This is going to be a great, great spring and summer!
Hello, quitter333,
You made so many great points in this post....and I agree with and also can identify with almost all of them! Especially the part about wanting to always strive for perfection....and yet, it always alludes us, because, as you said, it does not truly exist in nature. Yet, I am perpetually compelled to chase it! And though I truly believe that a lot of that is probably OCD driven, I also realize that there is a definite percentage of it that is probably because of the environment I grew up in. My Dad was a perfectionist. I also think both of my parents had at least a mild case of OCD themselves.
Also, like you, I worry about wasting my life and ironically, I was just thinking about this subject matter, earlier this morning. So your post truly seems like a “meant to read” moment for me. But, you are right....if we waste too much time worrying about wasting our life, then we may miss out on the beautiful experiences that we can enjoy in the moment; as every moment is precious!
It is wonderful to hear that you still have your parents. Unfortunately, mine are already passed away, but I cherish the memories that I have of them and all the wonderful things that they did for me. But I am going to pass on what was told to me, while my parents were still alive. Do everything you can to appreciate them while they are here....because once they are gone, you will always miss them. Carpe Diem! And may you always “Seize the opportunity” in all things!
All the best to you! 🌷💗🌷
Regarding the need for perfection - I think partially it is connected to my upbringing, as I always had a lot of mild discipline around me. And partially my mother has mild OCD, so I may have inherited that.
HOWEVER - regarding perfection there is something beautiful I have deducted and always used as my go-to principle. Since perfection is not achievable, as what is perfect today will NOT be such tomorrow, I started to truly believe that perfection is actually hiding the one attribute humans have over any other animal - adaptability. Not he is perfect, who creates something clean and structured, but he who can adapt to natural chaos and unpredictability easily, without confronting inner self. “You must be shapeless, formless, like water. When you pour water in a cup, it becomes the cup. When you pour water in a bottle, it becomes the bottle. When you pour water in a teapot, it becomes the teapot. Water can drip and it can crash. Become like water my friend.”
~B.Lee.
That is brilliant description of a perfect human being. Honest and adaptive. There is not stone or weapon or emotion that can hurt its state, as they cannot injure a living river.
Be water my friend.
Haha. Oh the poor thing. I can see how that would work. But then it needs a bath. With those teeth I wouldn't risk it.
“Liking for no reason” is grace, part of god’s character, and thus woven into the fabric of the universe, though often suppressed. Say “thank you.” And, she may see you more truly than you do.
“I’m afraid...but.” That’s a winning formula. Remember. Evaluate your fears in light of experience, like you did so movingly. Look around at Right Now, especially the creation. Today at 43 North I saw a sun dog, not rare, but not every day.
You and your parents...enjoy each other (if it’s good). Mine are gone. It hurts, hurts. And I have sweet memories.
You got this. There might be bad days, but I think you got this.
My family doesn’t understand what it’s like living with an anxiety disorder because I should just over it . I have no job and I’m indebt. I’m wondering if it’s even possible to work with anxiety if I can’t even get out of bed on bad days. My cats food is expensive bc he throws up food if it’s not this specific one. I don’t mind , just wish I had money... my family doesn’t know but they trigger my anxiety. I have nowhere else to go to get away from it. I’m forcwd to watch over a kid that isn’t mine just bc he’s my family. Like yes I helped out and made many sacrifices to help out but lemme live my life and don’t expect me to continue like I got my own shit to deal with. I wish I had no anxiety issues ever again. I’m able to work and not worry about a bad anxiety day. Get out of here with my dear cat and we can live happily together 
As a lawyer - stop paying debts, and write "I have no money and I would like to stop paying any interest and split my remaining credit in monthly payments that are much smaller than the current" letter to all creditors + add excel with proposed graph.
They will fight back once, twice, trice, and will either accept or not. At least you will get relief from any intrest for months, and possibly interest forever if they accept your proposal.
Make sure you have SOME income and the make excel spreadsheet listing all income and expenses and see what is bare minimum for you to survive for 3-6-12 months and possibly accumulate more money to pay debts off, or perhaps get some relief from paying debts, have small relaxing weekend and to get a better job.
I mean.. noone has died from being indebted. If you have huge debts, like hundred thousands, you may look into personal insolvency. I know in USA things like students debts are hard to kil through insolvency, but possible, also you can just move to europe where any collection will be even harder and insolvency easier. There are many options. Consult a financist and lawyer. Wanna get FREE legal advices? Go from one to another and tell every next one the procedure as told by the previous one, pretending that you knew that yourself, and you would need the next lawyer for this specific help. He will tell more extra procedure, and you move to third one. At the end you will know 95% of the things you need from lawyer. You can probably hire the last lawyer for only the small 5% part and do the rest yourself. Boom - free legal advice (otherwise may cost you hundreds and thousands) and cheap legal help.
You have given me advice about this particular problem before but I will try again and see what I get this time. I don't know what I want to do with myself - nothing is calling me or pushing me in any direction. I have no intuition whatsoever no clarity and nothing seems like the right fit. This decision has been tormenting me....
Long story short, I have been planning a year abroad to travel and do volunteer work (these 2 things brought me great joy, at one time). I made it halfway to my destination and became incapacitated by major depression so I cancelled the whole thing. I have begun to feel better (5/10) but not nearly to the point where anything feels or sounds appealing.
Do I continue on with my original plan in hopes that I'll actually enjoy myself, whilst spending all of my savings? Do I go home, retain my savings and re/visit the trip once I feel driven again? For context, I started in Canada with a goal of Thailand. I am currently in Africa.
Please consider: I hate the thought of wasting money (on the trip) if things don't improve, on the other hand I hate the thought of wasting an opportunity (by going home) if things do improve. I have been in Africa for 2 months and I cannot stay here much longer.
Any wisdom would be greatly appreciated.
Spring is coming...😊🌷☀️🐾🌱
Create your path.
Reading Sci-Fi as an antidepressant & anti-anxiety tool (i.e. The Stormlight Archives)
